Judge asks for Gender Neutral Domestic Violence Law – Idea is erroneous

Madurai: The Madras High Court on Thursday called for a “neutral and non prejudicial” law to protect genuine victims of domestic violence, irrespective of the gender, noting that existing law contains a flaw that lends itself to easy misuse by women.

In the above news, the Madurai bench of Madras High Court has asked for a gender neutral law to tackle Domestic Violence. At the onset, in the wake of a rising men’s rights movement in India and scores of abused men thronging for justice, this idea might just catch the fantasy of many a those who are batting for battered men.

However, I choose to differ here. I don’t think it’s a great idea. Rather it’s an erroneous idea prone to extreme backlashes.

And before the brickbats come for me, here’s why I think it’s a bad idea.

Domestic Violence problem distinct for men and women: The issue of Domestic Violence is not uniform for men and women. It’s rather very different. While woman claim to have been abused verbally, physically, emotionally, financially and sexually and the same set of abuses may apply for a man as well, however, when it comes to a man facing domestic violence, the problem is much more varied and complex for men.

Often men are threatened with violence by male relatives of the woman, notwithstanding the fact that such violence against men, at the instigation and behest of a woman is legal in India.

Men also face legal threats about being jailed under a false charge of domestic violence, again it is pertinent to mention here that it is very easy to get a man arrested on false charges of domestic violence by wife. Many such attempts and threats have driven married men to commit suicide and is the prime reason why married men end their lives prematurely.

Men are mostly cut off from their immediate social support structure like parents, close friends, cousins etc. and the man is defamed in front of them, insulted many a times and this breaks the confidence of a man which makes him an easy prey for establishing further control over the man.

More often than not men are forced to write-off  their hard earned property (house, site, etc.) to their wives and the society supports such a demand by wife irrespective of her nature. This disparity between men’s problems and women’s problems is depicted here.

Relationship Problem Graph

Laws in India are easier to make then review: We already have too many laws for domestic violence against women. And they are totally anti-male.

In those laws, there is no scope for a male victim to file any complaint because the very definition of law is against men and defines them as ubiquitous and stereotypical aggressors.

To modify such laws is a gargantuan and mammoth task as each law has various vested interests and stakeholders who tend to gain a lot from the law. In this case, it’s the lawyers lobby and the women who file the cases. And that’s a huge force which won’t allow modification of existing law.

It would be rather easier to have a new law drafted for protecting men from Domestic Violence which would cater specifically to the male side of the problem.

Research lacking from the male perspective: And last, but not the least, credible academic research about men facing domestic violence is severely lacking in India.

The Govt. of India invests no resources for the same and there are no surveys or studies conducted.

Neither are the organizations like Save Indian Family Foundation and Confidare, who are premier organizations batting for battered men, are being consulted on how to address the issue, nor are the male victims of domestic violence given any official platform to voice their woes.

In the absence of even such basic infrastructure, it would be preposterous to bring in a half-baked law on domestic violence which will do more harm than any remedial measure for battered men.

Hence, this idea of a uniform law for domestic violence is erroneous and needs to be rejected. What we need, is a male-centric law to protect male victims of domestic violence.

Are #men conditioned to make more sacrifices for #society compared to #women?

Recently, a twitter poll was conducted with the above question

Are men conditioned to make more sacrifices compared to women?” and the results were shocking as shown in the image below.


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रुदाली – एक विलुप्त प्रजाति?

पुराने दिनों में रुदालियाँ हुआ करती थी। किसी भी परिवार में यदि कोई मृत्यु हो जाती तो यह रुदालियाँ वहां बुलाई जाती थी और शोक व्यक्त करते हुए रोती थी। कभी कभी ऐसा करना अनिवार्य भी हो जाता क्योंकि परिवार के कुछ सदस्य शोकग्रस्त अवस्था में रोते नहीं थे और अपने परिजनों की मृत्यु के शोक को अपने अन्दर ही दबा कर के रखते थे। ऐसा करना, स्वास्थ्य के लिए अत्यंत हानिकारक हो सकता है और ऐसे अत्यंत शोक के समय में रोना अनिवार्य एवं उचित भी है।

इन रुदालियों को इसी कारण बुलाया जाता था की वे रोने का वातावरण बना सके और जो लोग रो नहीं रहे वे रो कर के अपना मन हल्का कर लें। धीरे धीरे यह प्रजाति विलुप्त होती गयी। आज भी शायद राजस्थान के किसी गाँव कस्बे  में शायद पायी जाए।

परंतु, यहाँ सोचने वाला विषय यह है कि यह अकारण रोने का पेशा औरतों को ही क्यूँ दिया गया? आदमियों को क्यों नहीं?

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How to contribute to Men’s Rights Movement in India?

Time and again, we are reminded that this society is male dominated and patriarchal in nature. What does it mean?

It means that men live in a have-it-all world. They have all the rights and privileges and they control all the power in the world. And this is how it is justified or evidence of its presence is presented:

  1. Men don’t have to leave their homes after getting married.
  2. They don’t need to adjust with another family.
  3. They get inheritance in ancestral property.
  4. Their child gets their name.
  5. Their name doesn’t need to change after marriage.

While all this might be true, the following is also true.

  1. Men need to become financially stable before getting married.
  2. They need to continue to remain so lifelong, which means they cannot stop working and sit at home.
  3. They cannot pursue their interests as it may not generate enough income for the survival of the whole family.
  4. Even if their wife works, they should not expect her to share the financial load, if she does it by her own choice, well and good.
  5. The risk of bringing a new person into their life and family wrests entirely with the man and one wrong decision can ruin his life.

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Consolidated Media Coverage – #DV Law needed for #men

IndiaToday - SIFF demands laws to protect men from harassment

DNA Hindi - अब ज़रूरत है पुरुषों को घरेलू हिंसा से बचाने के लिए कानून बनाया जाए


Business Standard - SIFF demands laws to protect men from harassment


New Indian Express - SIFF Demands Laws to Protect Men from Harassment


HiHindi One India - पति को प्रताड़ित करने वाली महिलाओं के खिलाफ बनेगा कानून!


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One India - Abusive daughters-in-law: Men's rights group demand harsher laws

News Reality - SIFF demands laws to protect men from harassment

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The Good Samaritan : A No-Man’s Land

So, here’s the news of Good Samaritan dies trying to save three girls from drowning which says, a Bandra-based resident jumped into the sea, for saving the lives of three girls.

The incident occurred in Bandstand, today, when the girls, who are students of a Govandi-based college, were trying to click a selfie. Witnesses say that the trio started drowning in deep waters, when Ramesh Valanju, 35, jumped in to save them.

Ramesh, who is a resident of Bandra, successfully saved the lives of two girls. However, in his final attempt to save the third girl, Ramesh along with her drowned.

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The real agenda of Feminism is to spread male hatred

Feminism has got nothing to do with “Women’s Rights” and they do not even care what happens to women. For them, attacking men and vilifying them, spreading hatred and venom against them is the top most priority work.

Recently, Union Minister for Women and Child Development, Mrs. Maneka Gandhi opened a conversation on twitter saying that for the next 2 hours she would take questions. Below are some of the screenshots of the replies she gave. Continue reading