Recently, a twitter poll was conducted with the above question
“Are men conditioned to make more sacrifices compared to women?” and the results were shocking as shown in the image below.
While popular literature and mainstream media would like us to believe that women make more sacrifices and would also highlight the various sacrifices women make for the society, one would find a complete lull and silence when it would come to sacrifices made by men.
In fact, media would undermine the sacrifices made by men unless the sacrifices are gynocentric in nature like,
- Getting daughter married,
- Getting her educated
And so on and so forth. However, the sacrifices that a man makes so that not only his near and dear ones like his parents, wife, children, siblings, etc. remain happy but also lead a comfortable life are either overlooked or taken for granted.
However, it is important to understand why men do this?
Heard of the famous dialogue – “Men will be Men!”?
It’s primarily used to demean and denigrate men by saying they’d never improve. However, today let’s take a fresh look at the dialogue.
By nature of their genetic design, men love taking risks be it personal, physical, emotional, financial, or even legal. They love chartering into uncharted waters and create newer comfort zones for people around. This is the reason almost all of the explorers have always been men.
However, taking risks is not always a man’s choice. Often men are shamed, induced with guilt forcing them to take risks and at the same time get abused as well for taking risks.
This is society’s way of making men work. This also works because primarily, being good natured, men often tend to take the blame and guilt upon themselves. They are not vicious or manipulative unlike women, so they before they realize the trap, they are into it and the game’s over.
But, as society trivializes a man’s contributions and sacrifices and focuses more on the vices of few men, the vast majority of good men are made to feel inferior about themselves, they also tend to take the blame easier and in the process, end up making more unsung sacrifices for the society compared to women.