Sensationalism always works as it tends to garner a lot of curiosity and eyeballs, which in turn allow a message to propagate far and wide.
In a world otherwise grappled with the thoughts of male-chauvinism and privileges of being a male, a movement that talked about the issues faced by men and the need for their rights was sensational in itself.
This sensationalism took the men’s rights movement in India to a much elevated platform wherein, within a very short span of time, the men’s rights activists were able to sensitize the Indian parliament about some of the issues that face men and get them thinking about those issues.
At the same time, a parallel development was taking place. Many women, who were at the receiving end of feminism and Gynocentrism in the society, resorted to men’s rights movement. They took up the cause and started talking about men and their issues.
And, this gave rise to a new phenomenon which even the mainstream media showed more keenness to highlight and that phenomena was – “Women in Men’s Rights Movement” or let us call it “Women in MRM!” for the sake of brevity.
Many a times, we are approached by journalists who want to talk about this particular aspect – “Women in MRM!”
For sure, it gives impetus to the movement as the talk goes around but what are the hidden messages carried by this phrase?
Some of the key messages that get delivered are,
- Women should not be talking about men’s issues, only men should be doing so. But then, when was the last time this question asked to those millions of men who supported and propagated feminism? Did anyone ask, what are men doing in a women’s movement? Rather, it was made incumbent upon every man to join the women’s rights movement.
- The men’s rights movement has been established around the cornerstone of the need of a communication channel for victimized, distressed, bereaved and harassed men and if such a platform gets impetus because women are talking about it, then we are defeating the very purpose of the movement itself.
- As a matter of fact, there are not even handfuls, rather very few women who are talking about men’s issues and they are the ones garnering limelight. It is a disservice to the efforts of hundreds of other hardworking and diligent men who are working tirelessly and effortlessly to spread the cause of men’s issues.
- If we are creating an atmosphere wherein only sensationalism rakes the sensitivities of a civil society then why should we blame the media that thrives of sensationalism, because if they are the virus of sensationalism in the society, the society itself is the host breeding and feeding the virus of sensationalism and since “Women in MRM!” is sensationalism within sensationalism, it catches the eyeballs.
- Most men have given up on women and when they find one or two or maybe three women talking about men’s issues, they all gather around those women as it fits their definition of being a woman.
“Women in MRM!” is a blessing in disguise or an unwarranted hurdle?
One can argue that since by talking about “Women in MRM!” and women talking about MRM, MRM gets impetus, why not live with it?
Before we fall for the temptation, it needs to be realized that,
- “Women in MRM!” is a choice by those women which can be respected as an individual choice but it cannot become the flagship point of a movement being propagated.
- It creates opportunities of attention garnering for women and no sooner MRM will get corrupted with this practice of giving special attention and status to women. In fact, it has already started happening. There are many men who are giving far more attention to the “Women in MRM!” rather than actual issues.
- It also needs to be understood that the gender boundaries are slippery slopes and caution needs to be exercised while we emphasize “Women in MRM!”
- Many times, the same message, when delivered by a woman, gets actually delivered and that tells us that MRM is feminized, which is a cause of worry.
- It breeds Gynocentrism in MRM and incites competition amongst men to keep “Women in MRM!” happy – the root cause of abuse of men and that defeats the very purpose of the movement – liberation of men from Gynocentrism.
Therefore, this Gynocentrism in men’s rights movement needs to stop as it is not a blessing in disguise; it’s rather an unwarranted hurdle.
And before we end it, it’s important to understand that it’s not the Women in the MRM who are responsible for “Women in MRM!” but it’s the men in the movement and the men in the society who are responsible for it. They want a feminine certification for everything and this is something men need to introspect themselves and overcome the need for feminine certification.
If we cannot reform ourselves, we should stop thinking about reforming the society.