PRESS RELEASE: SIFF Demands No Arrests No Maintenance in Marital Disputes

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) is a non-funded non-profit NGO fighting for men’s rights, Gender Equality and Family Harmony by creating awareness against the misuse of anti-male laws like Section 498A (the dowry law), the Domestic Violence Act, and the various Maintenance laws etc. which are systematically breaking down the family system of India and perpetrating state sponsored abuse against men.

It is pertinent to note that in the last 65 years of Indian Independence neither a single rupee has ever been allocated for men’s welfare nor has a single Constitutional/Academic body ever been formed to study the problems faced by men let alone addressing them.

This emptiness has led SIFF to do research on men’s problems, talk to the victimized men,  understand their pain, collect data and statistics related to men’s abuse and create awareness  about them. SIFF has been doing this research since the last 8 years. Also SIFF and its allied NGOs all over India, have been engaging in various awareness campaigns to create awareness of men’s issues through media, internet blogs and road protests.

The Problem:

One of the major problems that men face around marriages is criminalization of marital disputes. Every relationship has its own share of ups and downs, incompatibilities. However, it is being observed that with every year passing it is becoming a fashion for the wife’s family to threaten husband’s family of false dowry cases and false maintenance cases if the demands of the wife and/or her family are not met by husband and/or his family.

Marital disputes are being used an excuse to convert bad marriages into false criminal cases based on false allegations of physical torture and dowry demand by husband towards the wife.

Police Atrocities:

  1. Even the police are hand-in-glove with the wife’s family. When a wife approaches a police station, promptly an FIR under section 498A IPC is lodged and husband and his family is summoned to the police station under the pretext of counseling.
  2. While even though the police is not authorized to conduct marital counseling, it attempts to do so and uses the excuse to threaten husband and his family to bow down before his wife’s demands else face false cases.
  3. Husband is subjected to psychological and emotional torture (even physical at times) so that he breaks down and surrenders to the demand of his wife, which mostly revolves around giving huge sums of money and/or property to wife to “settle” the matter.
  4. Nowadays, it is being observed that the police is even going to offices where the husband works in order to defame him and try to arrest him without an arrest warrant, without showing him the complaint copy and completely violating Section 41(1)(a) of the amended CrPC as per The CrPC Amendment Act, 2010.
  5. As per this amendment, for all crimes punishable less than seven years of imprisonment, the accused must first be served with “Notice of Appearance”. If the accused does not comply with it, only then the police can arrest them. However, the police would be required to conduct thorough investigation prior to that on the complaint received, examine evidences presented, get an arrest warrant issued and record the reasons, as to why the accused was unable to comply with the “Notice of Appearance”.
  6. But, as we examine the cases of harassment of men that come to us, we find that the police do none of this. Instead, they either call the husband on his mobile repeatedly to threaten him to come to police else face dire consequences, or create social pressure on him by going to his office and endangering his job. All this happens at the instance of an unverified and uninvestigated complaint.

Inefficient Judiciary:

  1. The Indian judiciary is also no less an evil in tormenting husband and his family in order to “Break” him so that he bows down before his wife’s demand which mostly revolve around getting a divorce after the husband pays “Extortion Amount” under the cute name of “Alimony” to the tune of millions and crores at times.
  2. It is not a rare occurrence for a husband to be asked in court, “How much are you willing to pay to your wife to close the case?”
  3. While, the husband knows he is innocent and the case lodged against him is false and the more he tries to run the case on merits, the more is his harassment. The commonest form of harassment is in the form of maintenance orders slapped against the husband.
  4. Even if the wife is working, but if husband is not able to prove her employment, then courts make no efforts to ascertain the same on their own even when they have been given immense powers to do so.
  5. As soon as the case is filed, the husband is gifted with an “interim maintenance order” which is decided even before looking into the merits of the case. Once, this order is passed, the cases drag on for years. While, the poor husband keeps running from pillar to post trying to prove his innocence before an insensitive judiciary, the wife enjoys the husband’s hard-earned money and uses his own money against him.
  6. Women, deliberately leave their jobs just to get maintenance from husband and the maintenance ordered is nothing less than 20K – 30K per month. Women, also hide their source of income in order to present themselves as “Destitute” before the court in order to get maintenance. They even go to the extent of shedding crocodile tears in courts to overrule evidence analysis and more often than not judges pass orders based on emotions and social mindset rather than logic and facts on record.
  7. The Indian Judiciary has failed to set examples by punishing women who lie in court whereas the judges are behooved to do so.

The Consequences:

As a result of this anti-male bias in the legal system, men live under a lot of stress in marriages and as soon as their marriage is on rocks, they start fearing that their life is over. Added to that, social mindsets do not welcome a whining man as he is termed as “loser” and that he is not “man enough” to make his marriage work. Due to such language, the entire blame and responsibility of the marriage falls on the poor husband who finds no avenue helpful to him.

Exasperated, frustrated and horrified, many a men take recourse to ending their lives, a fact which is corroborated by the suicide figures published by the Union Home Ministry year after year.

In the year 2011, 62433 husbands committed suicides compared to 32582 wives. A cursory glance at the previous years establishes the trend.

Year Husband Suicides Wife Suicides
2010 61453 31754
2009 58192 31300
2008 57639 30224
2007 57593 30064
2006 55452 29869
2005 52483 28188

 Source: http://ncrb.nic.in/adsi/main.htm

 Also, as per analysis by the Union Home Ministry, domestic violence is the number one reason of suicides for both men and women alike. As the numbers of married men committing suicide is almost double the number of married women committing suicides, it is very clear that men are currently unprotected in marriages.

 The Clarion Call:

 Realizing the gravity of the situation, Save Indian Family Foundation makes a clarion call on the 19th of January 2013 calling upon men and women alike to participate in a peaceful protest March from Town Hall Bangalore to Mysore Bank Circle. The protest will begin at 9:30 AM in the morning from Town Hall and shall end at 2:00 PM at Mysore Bank Circle.

The theme of the protest is “No Arrest, No Maintenance in Marital Disputes” along with the following demands placed before the Govt. of India:

  1. Stop arresting innocent men and their families without investigation and trial in dowry cases.
  2. Stop forcing men to maintain their estranged wives who approach court with unclean hands and fabricated desertion stories.
  3. Sensitize the police and judiciary with the problems faced by men.
  4. Treat husbands with dignity and integrity in marital disputes.
  5. Form state wise and national commission of men to study problems faced by men in India.
  6. Institute a Men’s Welfare Ministry to implement welfare schemes specifically targeted towards men and to create pro-male laws.
  7. Stop treating husbands as FREE ATM MACHINES.
  8. Protect men and their families from abusive wives and false dowry and domestic violence cases.
  9. Take necessary steps to reduce suicides by men.
  10. Take necessary steps not to project men negatively in media.

 Similar protests will also be held in Kolkata, Hyderabad, Mumbai and Nagpur on the same day with the same theme and same demands.

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10 thoughts on “PRESS RELEASE: SIFF Demands No Arrests No Maintenance in Marital Disputes

  1. Everything that you said is cent percent true. It is very unfortunate that MEN who form SPINE of the society, is being ruthlessly tortured without realizing its consequences. I guess a lot of current Global Economic Recession is a fallout of this torture. If Men and their relatives are tortured on false complaints by unscrupulous wives, how can he use his mind and intellect towards creativity and solving economic, social, scientific problems etc?? Whole time he is absorbed in only one thing: how to escape Legal persecution and false criminal cases??

    I guess Global Economic Recession is an indicative of the increase in False cases on men. The more the false cases on Men, the greater the Economic slowdown and host of other problems associated with it.

    The Economy slowed down because more and more men slowed down their mind from creativity and devoting time and energy towards legal education and protection.

    My views may appear laughable, but if a fair research is conducted, it will be found how more and more men today are devoting more and more time towards legal education rather than enhancing their professional knowledge which is actually a wastage of the HUMAN RESOURCE.

    If Men are not allowed to work freely and fearlessly, how can society prosper and progress??

    STOP ALL FALSE CASES AND YOU WILL OBSERVE A BOOMING ECONOMY AND ASSOCIATED PROSPERITY.

  2. Real Facts and Well written !
    My humble view is Men should be ready to give up their high paying jobs if interim maintenance is awarded without confirming wife’s employment or employability..
    Why cant social welfare and WCD find jobs for these destitute women ?
    How long is the interim mainteance awarded – 3 months until she finds a job..

  3. Excellent write up and post – with data, facts, stats. Here is one guy from Belgium (Indian), who felt on this issue with me over Blog & have promoted Confidare, SIFF.

    http://ynsaripa.wordpress.com/

    How I hope more men come out on it – it can hit if not you, your next generation/someone in your circle.

    Anjan,

    498A is since 1983 – 30 years. Dowry Act since 1961 – 52 years. These cases on Men are increasing dramatically day by day since 1961.
    Now you yourself decide whether it is due to Global Economic Slowdown.

    • There is a little misunderstanding!!

      I didn’t say or mean that 498A is due to Global Slow Down. It is on the other hand opposite; 498A is causing Economic slow down because so many brilliant men ( and their relatives) are implicated in false civil and criminal cases, that they devote all their time and energy in fighting these cases; consequently unable to contribute towards development of the country.

      Whereas these brilliant men could have worked for the progress and prosperity of the country i.e. contributed to economic growth of the country, with the false implication in legal cases, this intelligence and brilliance is WASTED in unproductive work.

      I hope, I have been able to explain my point.

  4. All the law makers are men, then why they do not understand the agony of men tortured by wife by showing fear of dowry act and 498a. I think this is bastardy of law maker. They should think honestly the agony of distressed men.

  5. See my wife here in this real time video. She instituted 498A and stayed back at my residence. I had to leave home. After getting bails in several criminal cases which my wife had launched I came back home to stay in Nov 2012. She performed this drama. She acted as if I was physically assaulting her. She made all sorts of noises. She abused me in filthy languages. She tried to tear her clothes. She banged her head with almirah. She trained her daughters to do the same. She thought by doing this she will gain sympathy of law and police. Later on she implicated me in IPC 307 (attempt to murder) by doing the same acting. I had shown this video and other video to police but police had put me in lockup. I got bail from lower court the next day. She is sister of a mafia don PrabhuShankar Agarwal of Haldiram Bhujiawala who was behind the bars for nine months for attempt to kill a tea vendor by pistol

    My wife has even trained my daughters Niharika Agarwal and Anmol Agarwal to behave in this manner. Here is the video. I am still fighting to survive on this day 8th Mar 2013

  6. Marriage is not a licence to ‘MONEY MAKING MACHINE’ for either of GENDER ‘period’! —-> http://beforeitsnews.com/india/2012/03/marriage-is-not-a-licence-to-money-making-machine-for-either-of-gender-period-1911325.html
    ——–> DECLARE india a ‘LEGAL TERRORIST’ state: http://oneworldpress.wordpress.com/2013/05/02/criminal-case-against-indias-lawmakersrulerscourts-for-very-high-number-of-married-men-deaths/

    ANOTHER DEAD MARRIED MEN, victim of ‘LEGAL TERRORISM laws of india’
    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/noida/Noida-Man-hangs-self-after-argument-with-wife/articleshow/20075745.cms

    While this shall be passed as a SIMPLE suicide, HAD it been WOMEN…..ohhh mannn, the WHOLE courts/lawmakers/rulers/NWC would pounce on HUSBAND.

    I WOULD URGE family members of VICTIM ‘MEN’ to FILE A CRIMINAL CASE AGAINST COURTS/LAWMAKERS/RULERS of india for allowing ‘LEGAL TERRORISM LAW against MEN’ e.g. IPC498a,crpc125 etc.etc that simply ruins FAMILIES and corrupts WIFE.

    Today’s WIFE are LEADERS in ADULTERY/INFIDELITY, they fist marry rich guy then later commit ADULTERY/infidelity openly since they know LAWMAKERS/COURTS are their LAP-DOGS. They DESERT HUSBAND/MARRIAGE to commit ADULTERY they may even do it living with husband, when innocent husband discover wife’s ADULTERY then wife threaten innocent husband with (LEGAL TERRORISM) FAKE 498a/304b/crpc125 and IrBM on husband, CHECK-MATE-husband while wife ‘MATES’ with others openly! ——>ADULTERY/infidelity is a CRIME against kids/spouse, when still married. First get divorced and DO NOT commit ADULTERY/infidelity

    WEDDING BELLS are WARNING BELLS NOW:
    http://oneworldpress.wordpress.com/2013/05/13/wedding-bells-are-warning-bells-now-incorrigible-india/

    On behalf of 65000 annual men DEATHS & million+ suffering victims due to ‘LEGAL TERRORISM in marriage by india’s COURTS/LAWMAKERS/RULERS’ not counting those killed in FAKE ENCOUNTERS

    Daughter-in-law should not be treated as domestic help, says Supreme Court
    http://www.ndtv.com/article/india/daughter-in-law-should-not-be-treated-as-domestic-help-says-supreme-court-367321

    WHO IS RESPONSIBLE for such DEATHS?
    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/bangalore/Techie-ends-life-names-wife-mom-in-law/articleshow/19469289.cms

    These people are only worried about 1 young women DIL, other-than that they don’t see anything, they don’t see mother of husband, they don’t see sister of husband, they don’t see senior citizens being harassed, they don’t see young kids future, they only EYE on 1 young women DIL.
    Is this justice or ‘LEGAL TERRORIST’???

    Equal laws protecting equal rights the best guarantee of loyalty & love of country.

    They are making the MOVES to ‘DECIMATE FAMILIES with biased opinion and laws’ and they are clear that they won’t change.
    http://oneworldpress.wordpress.com/2013/05/13/wedding-bells-are-warning-bells-now-incorrigible-india/

    Therefore, folks please ramp-up your efforts and campaign to highlight to the WORLD the ‘LEGAL TERRORISM’ by LAWMAKERS/COURTS/RULERS to ruin families of india. Already 65000 deaths per year of MEN, does that not BOTHER COURTS/LAWMAKERS/RULERS?

    UNLESS, if they are busy in RAPING women of india??
    http://beforeitsnews.com/international/2012/12/weaponize-women-to-save-them-from-growing-incidents-of-rape-and-sexual-assaults-2449758.html

    “TIME after TIME, PLACE after PLACE, FACE after FACE, RAPE after RAPE……” @india

    RECENT examples of RULERS/ELECTED-LEADERS RAPING WOMEN OF INDIA.

    Harayana ELECTED ‘geetika – kanda’ case,

    superCOP KPS GILL sexual assault tribute,

    PUNJAB elected and RULING ‘Shiromani Akali Dal’ leader, Ranjit Singh was caught sexually harassing POLICE/COP DAUGHTER openly!

    HP ELECTED ‘jyoti – Doon MLA Ram Kumar Chaudhary case’

    ‘Ruchika – rathore superCOP’ case,

    one can GO on and on and on…….NO END

    ALL, ‘PAID by GOVERNMENT of INDIA’

    Tell COURTS, that we don’t seek permission from COURTS when getting MARRIED, we seek permission from GOD and NOT GOVERNMENT. Therefore, WARN COURTS that you better start respecting BOTH the GENDER or FACE the MUSIC very soon, MARK-THIS!

    Regards,
    SIFF member
    Equal laws protecting equal rights the best guarantee of loyalty & love of country.
    AGENDA NWO: new women order to SCREW MEN!
    http://beforeitsnews.com/international/2012/02/agenda-nwo-screw-the-men-2-2449904.html

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