That, I am a men’s rights activist is a known fact and can be very well be deduced from the blogs and websites that I maintain. Below is the list,
I also involve in a lot of social research on men and attitudes of society, in general, towards men. And my interactions with the world around me form a crucial part of it. It so happened that a couple of days back, one of my female friends (ex-colleague) pinged me and told me, “You seem to have become a misogynist (woman-hater)”, to which I asked, “Why so?”. She replied that she has been following my blogs for quite some time and that she agrees to some part of it but everything cannot be completely right and completely wrong. So I told, “I am fighting for men’s rights and if that appears as misogyny, then so be it.” The chat ended.
I found the chat really interesting, because it was rampant misandry (male-hatred) around me that turned me into a men’s rights activist and that’s when I realized how men have been actually fooled by the society in the name of chivalry, protector and provider. How the emotional health of men has been jeopardized in order to convert them into numb PROTECTORS and UNPAID BODYGUARDS? And because of this, the society invests very low emotional resources in men and considers them as disposable entities and the most visible manifestation of this Male Disposability is in the fact that misandry is a social norm and considered to be a way of life.
As a result, societal inaction on misandry is no surprise unless one really gets hit by it and becomes a “Punished Victim” and a “De-Facto Stereotyped Criminal”. Whereas, as women have mostly been protected by men, they are considered to be a great social asset and misogyny (female hatred), even in its presumed forms, is protested against.
Whereas the real misandrists, who are spearheading the movement for “Women’s Empowerment” and piggybacking male-hatred on it, and those who are responsible for making misandry a social norm, have never been asked, “You seem to have become a misandrist and that everything cannot be completely right or wrong, etc.”
But today, when I fighting for RIGHT to PEACEFUL EXISTENCE of men by working to eliminate misandry, I get labeled as a misogynist, and hence after that chat with my friend, I just asked myself,
- Is it wrong to speak truth?
- Is it wrong to expose falsehood?
- Is it a crime to fight for human rights for men?
- Am I a misogynist?
The answer is difficult, as it depends on the perspective one takes to look at the fight that I am fighting. If fighting FOR MEN, is AGAINST WOMEN, I am happy to be misogynist, else, social attitudes need a serious change to understand the men’s rights movement.
And it is only the society can answer – Am I a misogynist?