Protector Becomes Predator

Before going into the actual content and theme, I will narrate a brief story here.

Meera and Jai Vardhan are in love and they are going along well. They know each other very well, like each other very much. But then Meera gets a lifetime chance in her career which required her to travel overseas. And this meant a long distance relationship (LDR) between the two. However, imagining the pros and cons, they decide to go for a breakup. Post breakup, Meera heads overseas whereas Jai continues in the same country though they continue to be in touch.

Over a period of time, both Meera and Jai find new partners. However, their hearts stay with each other, of course, without them realizing it. Finally Jai travels to Meera’s country and they spend some time together and enjoy it fully. However, Meera’s boyfriend Vikram proposes her and they get married. Jai realizes what’s he’s losing. Meera realizes it after marriage. And tells Vikram that she cannot live with him and needs to go back to Jai. Vikram lets her go, however, Jai gets a lifetime opportunity in his career and Meera lets him go. After few years, Jai realizes that he cannot live without Meera and comes back to her country and was still under the impression that she is married to Vikram. However, comes to know that Meera had left Vikram just one day after the marriage.

Vikram still loved her.

The above story touches upon a lot of hidden societal attitudes and gender stereotypes which ultimately affected the lives of all the three people – Meera, Jai and Vikram – who are more than characters here as we will see here. They are personified epitomes of today’s youth; torn apart in the cultural warfare between Conservatives and Liberals.

Jai loved Meera very much and never wanted to part from her. He was not ready for the LDR. And when Meera told him about her moving to another country Jai actually breaks down. However, overhyped gender sensitivity and brow-beating by otherwise uncalled for feminists and portrayal of expectations of men as chauvinism had castrated Jai emotionally.

Also the social acceptance of the misandry spread by feminists facilitated the emotional castration of males from which even Jai was not spared. And thus, he could not express his wish to stop Meera when she was going from his life. Any attempt from his side would have called for a lot of pressure on him from the society. All this conversation was going on like a commentary inside Jai’s subconscious mind which made him act against his heart.

Later, when even he realizes that he loves her, he is not able to again express himself because he fears going against a woman’s wishes. Also the possibility of an attempt to rape case or sexual assault could not have been ruled out on Jai had he been assertive of his feelings for Meera.

Again if we look at Vikram – he paid a price for something he did not do. Meera could not balance her past, present and future and Vikram had to let go off his wife for her former lover. Had it been the other way round Vikram would have been booked under the Domestic Violence Act and probably fearing that only he let her go off.

Hence we see that the two men paid the price of the existing male-hatred and they became emotionally numb succumbing to the emotional castration thrust unto men right from the age of six.

At every point it prevented them from being assertive of their feelings or express themselves or be in a position to experience their emotions. And this societal attitude has emerged from the over-protective tendency of the society towards women which has actually made the society forget that even men need to be protected.

And it is not as if Meera had a ball of a time. Because of the social pressure on both Jai and Vikram she could never know who really loved her and whom she really loved ending up in loving Jai and marrying Vikram and spending at least 5-6 years alone without Vikram and not knowing whether Jai will return or not.

The same protection syndrome that had castrated the emotions of the males in her life had predated her as well.

The Protector Became Predator.

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