PRESS RELEASE: Just like Suraj Pancholi, thousands of helpless men get victimized with threats of Suicide from wives and girlfriends every year.

PRESS RELEASE­­

Subject: Just like Suraj Pancholi, thousands of helpless men get victimized with threats of Suicide from wives and girlfriends every year.

Based on media reports and alleged suicide note of Jiah Khan, 22-year old Suraj Pancholi was arrested and sent to jail for committing the crime of abetment to suicide. We have to understand that such laws do not exist in other countries in the world. Is suicide a solution to break-ups or separation? Jiah Khan attempted suicide 8 months ago and nothing was done to ensure that she does not repeat it. It is absurd to assume that all human relations will remain everlasting in this age of modernity. Finally, women are portrayed as victims, and men as abusers.

Suraj Pancholi is not alone. Thousands of men across India call SIFF helplines every week. Half of them have faced threats of suicide from their wives from time to time, if they do not meet her unreasonable demands. These men are scared. These abusive wives refuse to come to a counselor or a psychiatrist. When these young men plead to the parents of women about their suicidal nature, parents do not take it seriously. These men cannot run away from home or file for divorce, fearing that this may prompt her to commit suicide. They suffer mental and physical abuse from possessive, controlling and suspicious wives. In fact, the society laughs at them as “Harassed Husbands” rather than helping the man and making arrangements for counseling of such women. Now, this phenomenon is getting extended to relationships before marriage as well. Being obsessively possessive and controlling is not a sign of love.

In short, India is sitting on a ticking time bomb as the society refuses to recognize the issue of threats of suicide inside marriages or in relationships. The society just behaves as if such incidents are rare or wishes that this problem will go away on its own. Then, it recommends revenge on the man if the woman commits suicide.  Home Ministry (NCRB) data says, 24% of all suicides in India are due to Family Reasons and 3.4% due to failed love affairs.

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PRESS RELEASE: SIFF opposes Marriage Laws Amendment Bill demands additional clauses to be inserted

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Sub: SIFF opposes Marriage Laws Amendment Bill; demands additional clauses to be inserted

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), an organization fighting for men’s rights and working to support distressed and victimized men has raised cudgels against the upcoming Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010.

Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010 seeks to introduce a new ground for divorce in the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 and Special Marriage Act, 1957 – The Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage Ground, providing for a quick no-fault divorce after three years of separation.

SIFF vehemently opposes the bill in its current form terming it as unconstitutional, gender discriminatory and anti-male.

Why is the bill unconstitutional?

This bill is unconstitutional as it violates Article 14 of the Indian constitution. Article 14 says all are equal before the eyes of the law, whereas in the current bill at hand,

  1. Only a wife can oppose the divorce petition filed by a husband if she ‘feels’ financially insecure with the divorce settlement.
  2. Only a husband will lose at least 50% of his hard earned property to his estranged wife.
  3. There is no guarantee that a father would get access to his children post-divorce and the bill does not talk about shared parenting at all.
  4. The bill does not cater to ‘Social Security’ of men while it caters to ‘Financial Security’ of women post-divorce.
  5. The does not recognize contribution of men in marriage while it talks about contribution of women in marriage.

Why should men pay?

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PRESS RELEASE: SIFF Calls for a Peaceful Protest March Demanding Rollback of Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 (IrBM).

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Subject: SIFF Calls for a Peaceful Protest March Demanding Rollback of Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 (IrBM).

Theme of the Protest:

The theme of this protest is to register Strong Protest against the Marriage Law Amendment Bill (2010), commonly known as IrBM (Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage) OR No-Fault Divorce. It is a common practice to ask men to make huge financial payment to his wife when a marriage breaks. The same injustice to men is now being extrapolated by this new Bill which incentivizes a Wife to take Divorce for NO FAULT of the Husband with minimum 50% of his owned / acquired / inherited / inheritable / moveable / immoveable Properties. Often, the man is implicated in false cases in order to coerce him towards a settlement. Even the state machinery is hand-in-glove with the wife in this financial extortion of men.

1. SIFF being men’s rights organization identifies such abuse of men as a violation of the human rights of men. It vehemently objects to men being forced to pay huge and hefty Property or amounts to end marriages.

2. SIFF vehemently opposes upcoming laws like Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill which talks of giving away at least 50% of the property owned by husbands at the time of divorce apart from possible division of other properties like inherited, gifted, acquired properties.

3. SIFF also opposes all forms of pressures being put on a man to cough out huge alimonies and maintenance including the existing maintenance laws (Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC).

4. Such laws act as a great motivator for a woman to marry and break the marriage in order to enrich herself at the cost of the man (her husband).

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No Money in Alimony

Does it sound like a self-contradictory statement when I say, “No Money in Alimony”? Because, everyone knows that alimony is the money that a husband pays when he gets divorced from his wife, so when we say, “No Money in Alimony”, what exactly does it mean?

It simply means, “Abolish Alimony”. And do we have the eyebrows already raised?

Well, yes, then I guess this article is pretty much needed. I have often experimented by talking to people asking them, “Is it OK to abolish alimony?”

And the answer has been a majority NO, even from many of those men who are themselves paying alimony/maintenance.

And when I asked them as to why would they support alimony, the answer was, “I know my wife doesn’t deserve alimony, but there are many genuine women who should get?”

And this made me ponder and wonder, “Is it OK to burden a husband with the financial burden of his ex-wife even when the relationship is over?”

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SIFF Demands Exclusive Litigation Clause to be introduced in Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill

From:
Coordinator, Save Indian Family Foundation

Bangalore

To,

Dr. Manmohan Singh

Honorable Prime Minister of India

Subject: SIFF Demands Exclusive Litigation Clause to be introduced in Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill

Respected Sir,

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) is a non-profit non-funded NGO creating awareness about men’s problems and concerns and sensitizing the society about men’s rights. SIFF takes pride in its expertise in providing guidance and coaching to men facing crisis situation in their marriages, especially in extravagant situations like men facing false cases of dowry harassment (498A), Domestic Violence Act, maintenance cases etc.

Brief Background:

We have been following up the ongoing debate in the media and Govt. circles about an upcoming law, Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010 which seeks to introduce a new ground for divorce in the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 and Special Marriage Act, 1957 – The Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage Ground providing for a quick no-fault divorce after three years of separation.

Dangerous Ramifications of the proposed bill:

What looks as a convenient way to dispose of the ongoing marital disputes in the country, which is seeing a splurge in divorce cases being filed, contains a few very dangerous provisions whose ramifications can be far-reaching and taxing for the society. Research conducted by SIFF leads it to believe, at the onset, that this bill is anti-male in nature and seeks to promulgate state sponsored financial extortion targeted against husbands.

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The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India

An article authored by me titled, “The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India” has appeared in the Glimpse Magazine, Chandigarh. Here’s a scanned version of the article below. In case you find it difficult to read, you can download the image, enlarge it and read it.

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Candle Light March in Bangalore

We had a very good event yesterday. Around 110 SIF members joined the march. Around 25-30 people from the neighbourhood came.

We started the march from the victim Manoj Kumar’s brother’s residence. As soon as we started assembling, immediately two TATA SUMOs came there tagged with “Election Duty”. The Vigilance Department of Election Commission had come to inquire what was going on as polls are announced in Karnataka and election code of conduct is ON. They were given proper anti-misandry antidote and sensitization about abuse of men and misuse of laws.

They left the place smiling and told us not to make noise or break the discipline. They were handed over a copy of the press release.

After that, we waited for some more time, and then started forming the queue with 2 people in a line. A banner made by Marital Justice group, printed by us on a size of 4’X2′ was held by both the brothers in the front who led the march.

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