PRESS RELEASE: SIFF Calls for a Peaceful Protest March Demanding Rollback of Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 (IrBM).

PRESS RELEASE

Subject: SIFF Calls for a Peaceful Protest March Demanding Rollback of Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill 2010 (IrBM).

Theme of the Protest:

The theme of this protest is to register Strong Protest against the Marriage Law Amendment Bill (2010), commonly known as IrBM (Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage) OR No-Fault Divorce. It is a common practice to ask men to make huge financial payment to his wife when a marriage breaks. The same injustice to men is now being extrapolated by this new Bill which incentivizes a Wife to take Divorce for NO FAULT of the Husband with minimum 50% of his owned / acquired / inherited / inheritable / moveable / immoveable Properties. Often, the man is implicated in false cases in order to coerce him towards a settlement. Even the state machinery is hand-in-glove with the wife in this financial extortion of men.

1. SIFF being men’s rights organization identifies such abuse of men as a violation of the human rights of men. It vehemently objects to men being forced to pay huge and hefty Property or amounts to end marriages.

2. SIFF vehemently opposes upcoming laws like Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill which talks of giving away at least 50% of the property owned by husbands at the time of divorce apart from possible division of other properties like inherited, gifted, acquired properties.

3. SIFF also opposes all forms of pressures being put on a man to cough out huge alimonies and maintenance including the existing maintenance laws (Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC).

4. Such laws act as a great motivator for a woman to marry and break the marriage in order to enrich herself at the cost of the man (her husband).

No Money in Alimony

Does it sound like a self-contradictory statement when I say, “No Money in Alimony”? Because, everyone knows that alimony is the money that a husband pays when he gets divorced from his wife, so when we say, “No Money in Alimony”, what exactly does it mean?

It simply means, “Abolish Alimony”. And do we have the eyebrows already raised?

Well, yes, then I guess this article is pretty much needed. I have often experimented by talking to people asking them, “Is it OK to abolish alimony?”

And the answer has been a majority NO, even from many of those men who are themselves paying alimony/maintenance.

And when I asked them as to why would they support alimony, the answer was, “I know my wife doesn’t deserve alimony, but there are many genuine women who should get?”

And this made me ponder and wonder, “Is it OK to burden a husband with the financial burden of his ex-wife even when the relationship is over?”

SIFF Demands Exclusive Litigation Clause to be introduced in Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill

From:
Coordinator, Save Indian Family Foundation

Bangalore

To,

Dr. Manmohan Singh

Honorable Prime Minister of India

Subject: SIFF Demands Exclusive Litigation Clause to be introduced in Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill

Respected Sir,

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) is a non-profit non-funded NGO creating awareness about men’s problems and concerns and sensitizing the society about men’s rights. SIFF takes pride in its expertise in providing guidance and coaching to men facing crisis situation in their marriages, especially in extravagant situations like men facing false cases of dowry harassment (498A), Domestic Violence Act, maintenance cases etc.

Brief Background:

We have been following up the ongoing debate in the media and Govt. circles about an upcoming law, Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010 which seeks to introduce a new ground for divorce in the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 and Special Marriage Act, 1957 – The Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage Ground providing for a quick no-fault divorce after three years of separation.

Dangerous Ramifications of the proposed bill:

What looks as a convenient way to dispose of the ongoing marital disputes in the country, which is seeing a splurge in divorce cases being filed, contains a few very dangerous provisions whose ramifications can be far-reaching and taxing for the society. Research conducted by SIFF leads it to believe, at the onset, that this bill is anti-male in nature and seeks to promulgate state sponsored financial extortion targeted against husbands.

The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India

An article authored by me titled, “The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India” has appeared in the Glimpse Magazine, Chandigarh. Here’s a scanned version of the article below. In case you find it difficult to read, you can download the image, enlarge it and read it.

Candle Light March in Bangalore

We had a very good event yesterday. Around 110 SIF members joined the march. Around 25-30 people from the neighbourhood came.

We started the march from the victim Manoj Kumar’s brother’s residence. As soon as we started assembling, immediately two TATA SUMOs came there tagged with “Election Duty”. The Vigilance Department of Election Commission had come to inquire what was going on as polls are announced in Karnataka and election code of conduct is ON. They were given proper anti-misandry antidote and sensitization about abuse of men and misuse of laws.

They left the place smiling and told us not to make noise or break the discipline. They were handed over a copy of the press release.

After that, we waited for some more time, and then started forming the queue with 2 people in a line. A banner made by Marital Justice group, printed by us on a size of 4′X2′ was held by both the brothers in the front who led the march.

PRESS RELEASE: SIFF calls for Peaceful Candle March in the honor of yet another Martyr of Marriage

Morning Shocker:

It was a usual Wednesday morning to which Bangalore woke up, only to be shaken by the brazen news of a young man of 36 committing suicide due to alleged torture by wife leaving behind his 1 year old son, 2 married brothers, an old mother and an unfortunate suicide note blaming his wife and mother-in-law for the extreme step of ending his life. Techie by Profession, Manoj Kumar worked for Oracle, while his wife Pramila worked for Bharat Electric Limited.

Manoj has had a tumultuous marriage. Constant torture by his wife which reached unbearable limits as she forced him to stay away from his family under threats of getting him jailed under a false 498A (dowry) case led Manoj to write “Sorry Son” on his T-Shirt before hanging his body from the ceiling fan on the unfortunate night of 8^th April 2013. This was after his wife abused his entire family, physically assaulted his brother with a helmet and tried to attack his old mother before she dared them that she would get them jailed in false dowry case if her demands are not met.

Manoj is not a solo victim but amongst lakhs of men who are abused daily in marriages and with this suicide, he enters the thousands of unfortunate men who die a silent death in an insensitive society that refuses to protect men.

How many more martyrs do we need to awaken?

Morning Shocker:

It was a usual Wednesday morning to which Bangalore woke up, only to be shaken by the brazen news of a young man of 36 committing suicide due to alleged torture by wife leaving behind his 1 year old son, 2 married brothers, an old mother and an unfortunate suicide note blaming his wife and mother-in-law for the extreme step of ending his life. Techie by Profession, Manoj Kumar worked for Oracle, while his wife Pramila worked for Bharat Electric Limited.

Manoj has had a tumultuous marriage. Constant torture by his wife which reached unbearable limits as she forced him to stay away from his family under threats of getting him jailed under a false 498A (dowry) case led Manoj to write “Sorry Son” on his T-Shirt before hanging his body from the ceiling fan on the unfortunate night of 8^th April 2013. This was after his wife abused his entire family, physically assaulted his brother with a helmet and tried to attack his old mother before she dared them that she would get them jailed in false dowry case if her demands are not met.

Manoj is not a solo victim but amongst lakhs of men who are abused daily in marriages and with this suicide, he enters the thousands of unfortunate men who die a silent death in an insensitive society that refuses to protect men.

Press Release: All India Forgotten Women of India boycott observing International Women’s Day

Subject: All India Forgotten Women’s Association announces boycott of International Women’s Day

About All India Forgotten Women’s Association:

All India Forgotten Women’s Association (AIFWA), a group of bereaved, beleaguered, harassed, distraught and tortured women of India, has decided to boycott observing the International Women’s Day which happens to fall on the 8^th of March. AIFWA gives a face and a voice to those mothers and sisters of husbands who have been harassed by women and women-centric laws and have nowhere to go. AIFWA gives a platform to women smitten by feminism to voice their woes and seek justice for the injustice done to them.

The Problem:

A lot of false cases are making their way to the courts under Section 498A (dowry law), Domestic Violence Act, various Maintenance sections in order to harass husband and his family and encash a bad marriage. These cases are primarily targeted to harass the husband and his family in order to coax them for an out of court settlement which more often than not involves huge alimony to the tune of millions and crores.

Often the entire family of the husband including small children, pregnant sisters, old parents, are named in the FIR in order to put pressure on the husband. It is ironical that, at the pretext of one woman, on average, 3 other women suffer who are the husband’s relatives.

Do you know?

1. Every year close to 40,000 women are arrested in false dowry cases without trial or investigation on the basis of one uninvestigated complaint as per arrest data provided by the National Crime Record Bureau, Ministry of Home Affairs.
2. In the five years period from 2004 – 2009, close to 2,00,000 innocent women have been arrested in false dowry cases, while the British Government arrested just 20,000 women in 40 years as per arrest data provided by the National Crime Record Bureau, Ministry of Home Affairs.
3. Domestic Violence act has forced senior citizens to leave homes built by their own hard-earned money and live on footpaths and gurudwaras due to faulty orders of right to residence being passed against husband and his family.
4. There is no provision of remedy for a woman harassed by her daughter-in-law or sister-in-law (brother’s wife).
5. All the women-centric laws are, in reality, wife-centric laws and they discriminate amongst women and do not provide relief to mothers and sisters of husband when the wife and her family inflict violence onto them.
6. As per study done by National Family Health Survey, women face 8 times more violence in their natal homes, at the hands of their mothers compared to that at the hands of their mothers-in-law post marriage.
7. Every year more than 62000 husbands commit suicide as per data provided by the Home Ministry and not a single wife has been punished so far. None of the mothers or sisters of those men have received justice for the death of their sons or brothers.
8. Feminists do not consider mothers and sisters of husband as women?
9. When a distressed mother-in-law approaches the National Commission for Women for help, she is turned down as the alleged perpetrator is her daughter-in-law?
10. These women have no platform to voice their concerns.

Boycott of International Women’s Day and Celebration of Forgotten Women’s Day

All India Forgotten Women’s Association have decided to boycott the “International Women’s Day” which falls on March 8^th and have instead decided to observe “Forgotten Women’s Day” on March 9^th, a day after International Women’s Day as a mark of protest against inter-gender and intra-gender discriminatory stands taken by feminists. The stands taken by feminists are just aimed at poisoning man-woman relationships in the society in order to monetize every intra-gender relationship under the cute name of “Women Empowerment”.

As the Govt. of India currently does not recognize the rights of these women, and passes laws as per the demands of the feminist lobby or the wife-centric lobby, these women have decided to call themselves as the “All India Forgotten Women’s Association” because amidst the feminist hoopla, the society/government/media has somewhere forgotten that mothers and sisters of husband are women too and need protection from abusive wives and their vicious and greedy families.

The Event

In order to mark the protest, register the boycott of International Women’s Day and observe the Forgotten Women’s Day, AIFWA announces a Dharna followed by peaceful protest march on the 9^th of March 2013 at Jantar Mantar, New Delhi (11:00 AM to 5:00 PM). Hundreds of mothers and sisters, supported by victimized husbands will be participating in the event to voice their grievances.

In spirit, they will be supported by thousands of members all over India belonging to various NGOs under the umbrella of the Save Indian Family (SIF) movement.

This event is being supported by at least 40 NGOs all over India like All India Mother-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF), Mothers and Sisters Initiative (MASI), Mothers and Sisters of Husbands Against Abuse of Law (MASHAAL), Save Family Foundation (SFF), Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), Pati Pariwar Kalyan Samity (PPKS), Army Against Dowry Law Misuse (AADMI), Hridaya, SIFF Andhra Pradesh, SIFF Nagpur, Indian Family Foundation, Men’s Rights Association (MRA), Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) to name a few.

These NGOs are spread across the country in cities like Delhi, Bangalore, Pune, Mumbai, Nagpur, Lucknow, Hyderabad, Mysore, Kanpur, Kolkata, Guwahati, Chandigarh, etc. and carry a cumulative strength of at least 50, 000 members who have been victimized by misuse of dowry laws and domestic violence laws.

Our Demands

AIFWA places the following demand on Forgotten Women’s Day before the society and Govt.

• The National Commission for Women was set up as statutory body in January 1992 under the National Commission for Women Act, 1990 ( Act No. 20 of 1990 of Govt. of India ) to :
  • review the Constitutional and Legal safeguards for women ;
  • recommend remedial legislative measures ;
  • facilitate redressal of grievances and
  • advise the Government on all policy matters affecting women.

We want NCW/Government to define specifically what is meant by “Woman”. Is she a mother, Is she a sister, Is she a mother-in-law, Is she a sister-in-law or Is she only a Wife.

Define clearly “Woman” in your Bye Laws.

• We demand a separate cell in NCW to look after the grievances of Mother-in-Law and Sister-in-Law. 

• Every year more than 40,000 innocent women are arrested without any investigation over last 5 years under IPC Section 498A. We demand a public apology to these women, as the Government has done nothing to address the grievances of these women. 

• Reform National Commission for Women and Women and Child Development Ministry to include mothers and sisters as women, in their definition of women. 

• There is no law to protect a Woman from her son’s in laws. We demand a separate law for the protection of such Women.
• Stop the discrimination against mothers and sisters of husband.
• Stop the misuse of dowry laws and domestic violence laws.
• Take steps to reduce suicides by Our Sons/Brothers.

Scrap all gender biased laws and bring in gender neutral laws only.

Invitation to attend AIFWA Dharna boycotting International Women’s Day

All India Forgotten Women Association boycotts International Women’s Day and celebrates Forgotten Women’s Day on March 9 to raise awareness about the plight of those men and women who are smitten by feminism, its lies and the biased laws like dowry act, domestic violence act, etc.

Its official now – Workplaces become unsafe for men