Confidare Men’s Rights Community Centre is the first of its kind established in India, for providing guidance and coaching for distressed and victimized men. Confidare Community Centre is run by 4 men’s rights activists, who have been associated with the men’s rights movement for the past 5+ years and have cumulatively looked into more than 5000 cases of men facing harassment in marriages.
Confidare Community Centre, currently operating out of Bangalore, provides a platform to distressed men to enable themselves psychologically to deal with stressful situations arising out of a bad marriage for men. Simple techniques of acceptance, self-awareness and psychological empowerment can perform wonders in one’s life that enables a person to deal with a stressful situation powerfully.
MRM or the men’s rights movement, as it is popularly known, had actually started in India many years back. With groups like Men Cell, Pidito Pati Parishad (PPP) and a few others being formed in the various parts of the country, however, it took quite some years before the movement got widespread recognition and mainstream status.
One can clearly see the advent of the movement getting prominent focus and attention with the rise of the Save Indian Family (SIF) movement. The SIF movement started in and around the beginning of 2005 with a few men’s rights activists calling the situation as “Enough is Enough”. The abuse of men and their families, by the society, law agencies and the Government going unabated and harassed men, especially husbands, having no solace in sight, the growth and foundation of the SIF movement was long impending and waiting to happen.
However, this current movement with the existing impetus did not start as SIF movement. It just started as a desperate attempt by a handful of husbands, who were trapped in bad marriages and frivolous marital litigations, to make their voices heard over the internet through blogging.
CRISP is an NGO formed in 2008, by people who recognize the serious effects of Parental Alienation of children due to single parent families on account of divorce or separation. CRISP fights against alienation of children from their parent(s) in the ever increasing divorce/ separation rates in the social realities of our contemporary society. CRISP also focuses on furthering the rights of children to remain connected with both biological parents. We are a pro-family and a pro-life organization, our aims and objectives are to promote family harmony in our society and are based on research findings. We are a large group of people from all walks of life, like software engineers, doctors, teachers, businessmen, social workers, etc. which includes women and senior citizens, to address this burning issue in our society.
CRISP has organized National Father’s Day Rally on Saturday, the 18th June, 2011 between 10:00 AM and 1:00 PM at TOWN HALL STEPS, JC ROAD, Bangalore, to demand FAMILY LAW REFORMS, highlight the grievances of Fathers deprived of access to their children and children to their fathers due to biased laws and failure of our judicial, legislative and executive systems on all fronts on this sensitive matter and a serious human rights issue, this protest dharna is on behalf of our children, who are voiceless victims & protect their rights to be connected to both biological parents.
Indian marital laws are extremely anti-male in nature. Almost all laws stereotypically assume that all men are aggressors and all women are victims and thus these laws have become havoc for Indian men. Indian men are increasingly becoming innocent victims of the “Legal Terrorism” cast by these laws.
Laws like Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, the Domestic Violence, Child Custody provisions, etc. are being used heavily against men to convert failed marriages into a crime and penalize innocent men. This not only endangers the male gender but also the social fabric and the family system of India.
Confidare Community Center is the first ever men’s rights center in India aimed towards creating a community based approach towards creating awareness of abuse of men’s rights by the society and lawmakers.
Bangalore: In an unprecedented display of solidarity for fathers, Bangalore citizens aired their bold views. On the eve of Father’s Day i.e. 19th June, 2010 Bangalore Mirror had carried an article titled – “Oh my sleeping child” which also carried a poll with it.
The poll read,
“Should society be sensitized to the plight of dads who have no access to their kids?”
The result of the poll was a sweeping 100% response in favor of the sensitization. All those who participated in the poll felt such a sensitization was the need of the hour.
Bangalore: “Even before prosecution, I have been sentenced for life. Living away from my child is like a punishment”, said Pradeep Kumar (name changed). Blessed with a loving son, his was a happy married life. In 2002, his company transferred him to Mumbai. He shifted on the pretext that his wife would join him in six months, after he is settled. That never happened. His life fell apart. Now, the couple is divorced and the wife has the custody of the child.
“Since 2005, I have been separated from my child. I haven’t had the chance to spend even a week with him. I met him for a day or two, which was possible when my in-laws were here because that was the assigned venue. In January they shifted to some other city. Now I am not even allowed that”, he said with a heavy voice.
On the eve of Fathers Day, people from various walks of life — senior citizens, harassed husbands and single fathers — got together to protest against creation of fatherless society.
Sub: Bangalore family court refuses memorandums on children welfare and rights
Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP) and All India Mothers-in-Law Protection Forum (AIMPF) are pro-family NGOs creating awareness in the society about rampant family-breaking being done by misuse of dowry harassment laws, domestic violence laws, maintenance laws and child custody laws.
On the eve of International Family Day, i.e. on May 14, the above NGOs had conducted a joint press conference and stressed upon the importance of strong families and fatherly role models for children and society. They had also asked the Indian Govt. to take immediate steps to stop family breaking due to misuse of dowry laws, violation of civil liberties of innocents under Section 498A, Domestic Violence laws and promote family harmony. Additionally, they had declared a month long campaign called, “Family Breaking Awareness Campaign”.
The above quotation may sound ambiguous and paradoxical to the reader in its initial stage, but a deeper thought into it, contemplation and a thorough study about it might prove the truth of it. The society is totally unaware of the real facts behind the so called “The Protective Wife-Centric Laws“. They have become, “Destructive” laws” for the husband, his family, the Indian society and mankind as a whole.
The statistics given below proves this fact.
70,000 marital cases per year.
Average alimony of Rs. 20 Lacs.
Rs. 14, 000 crores business shared by the police, the lawyers and the judges.