No Money in Alimony

Does it sound like a self-contradictory statement when I say, “No Money in Alimony”? Because, everyone knows that alimony is the money that a husband pays when he gets divorced from his wife, so when we say, “No Money in Alimony”, what exactly does it mean?

It simply means, “Abolish Alimony”. And do we have the eyebrows already raised?

Well, yes, then I guess this article is pretty much needed. I have often experimented by talking to people asking them, “Is it OK to abolish alimony?”

And the answer has been a majority NO, even from many of those men who are themselves paying alimony/maintenance.

And when I asked them as to why would they support alimony, the answer was, “I know my wife doesn’t deserve alimony, but there are many genuine women who should get?”

And this made me ponder and wonder, “Is it OK to burden a husband with the financial burden of his ex-wife even when the relationship is over?”

SIFF Demands Exclusive Litigation Clause to be introduced in Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill

From:
Coordinator, Save Indian Family Foundation

Bangalore

To,

Dr. Manmohan Singh

Honorable Prime Minister of India

Subject: SIFF Demands Exclusive Litigation Clause to be introduced in Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill

Respected Sir,

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) is a non-profit non-funded NGO creating awareness about men’s problems and concerns and sensitizing the society about men’s rights. SIFF takes pride in its expertise in providing guidance and coaching to men facing crisis situation in their marriages, especially in extravagant situations like men facing false cases of dowry harassment (498A), Domestic Violence Act, maintenance cases etc.

Brief Background:

We have been following up the ongoing debate in the media and Govt. circles about an upcoming law, Marriage Laws (Amendment) Bill, 2010 which seeks to introduce a new ground for divorce in the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 and Special Marriage Act, 1957 – The Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage Ground providing for a quick no-fault divorce after three years of separation.

Dangerous Ramifications of the proposed bill:

What looks as a convenient way to dispose of the ongoing marital disputes in the country, which is seeing a splurge in divorce cases being filed, contains a few very dangerous provisions whose ramifications can be far-reaching and taxing for the society. Research conducted by SIFF leads it to believe, at the onset, that this bill is anti-male in nature and seeks to promulgate state sponsored financial extortion targeted against husbands.

The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India

An article authored by me titled, “The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India” has appeared in the Glimpse Magazine, Chandigarh. Here’s a scanned version of the article below. In case you find it difficult to read, you can download the image, enlarge it and read it.

Candle Light March in Bangalore

We had a very good event yesterday. Around 110 SIF members joined the march. Around 25-30 people from the neighbourhood came.

We started the march from the victim Manoj Kumar’s brother’s residence. As soon as we started assembling, immediately two TATA SUMOs came there tagged with “Election Duty”. The Vigilance Department of Election Commission had come to inquire what was going on as polls are announced in Karnataka and election code of conduct is ON. They were given proper anti-misandry antidote and sensitization about abuse of men and misuse of laws.

They left the place smiling and told us not to make noise or break the discipline. They were handed over a copy of the press release.

After that, we waited for some more time, and then started forming the queue with 2 people in a line. A banner made by Marital Justice group, printed by us on a size of 4′X2′ was held by both the brothers in the front who led the march.

PRESS RELEASE: SIFF calls for Peaceful Candle March in the honor of yet another Martyr of Marriage

Morning Shocker:

It was a usual Wednesday morning to which Bangalore woke up, only to be shaken by the brazen news of a young man of 36 committing suicide due to alleged torture by wife leaving behind his 1 year old son, 2 married brothers, an old mother and an unfortunate suicide note blaming his wife and mother-in-law for the extreme step of ending his life. Techie by Profession, Manoj Kumar worked for Oracle, while his wife Pramila worked for Bharat Electric Limited.

Manoj has had a tumultuous marriage. Constant torture by his wife which reached unbearable limits as she forced him to stay away from his family under threats of getting him jailed under a false 498A (dowry) case led Manoj to write “Sorry Son” on his T-Shirt before hanging his body from the ceiling fan on the unfortunate night of 8^th April 2013. This was after his wife abused his entire family, physically assaulted his brother with a helmet and tried to attack his old mother before she dared them that she would get them jailed in false dowry case if her demands are not met.

Manoj is not a solo victim but amongst lakhs of men who are abused daily in marriages and with this suicide, he enters the thousands of unfortunate men who die a silent death in an insensitive society that refuses to protect men.

How many more martyrs do we need to awaken?

Morning Shocker:

It was a usual Wednesday morning to which Bangalore woke up, only to be shaken by the brazen news of a young man of 36 committing suicide due to alleged torture by wife leaving behind his 1 year old son, 2 married brothers, an old mother and an unfortunate suicide note blaming his wife and mother-in-law for the extreme step of ending his life. Techie by Profession, Manoj Kumar worked for Oracle, while his wife Pramila worked for Bharat Electric Limited.

Manoj has had a tumultuous marriage. Constant torture by his wife which reached unbearable limits as she forced him to stay away from his family under threats of getting him jailed under a false 498A (dowry) case led Manoj to write “Sorry Son” on his T-Shirt before hanging his body from the ceiling fan on the unfortunate night of 8^th April 2013. This was after his wife abused his entire family, physically assaulted his brother with a helmet and tried to attack his old mother before she dared them that she would get them jailed in false dowry case if her demands are not met.

Manoj is not a solo victim but amongst lakhs of men who are abused daily in marriages and with this suicide, he enters the thousands of unfortunate men who die a silent death in an insensitive society that refuses to protect men.

Invitation to attend AIFWA Dharna boycotting International Women’s Day

All India Forgotten Women Association boycotts International Women’s Day and celebrates Forgotten Women’s Day on March 9 to raise awareness about the plight of those men and women who are smitten by feminism, its lies and the biased laws like dowry act, domestic violence act, etc.

Indian Men Demand “No Arrest-No Maintenance” in a protest rally

Save Indian Family Foundation(SIFF), a men’s rights organization conducted a peaceful protest rally in Bangalore on Saturday, the 19th of January 2013 demanding “No Arrest, No Maintenance” in marital disputes. Calling upon the society, media and Government alike, members of SIFF claimed that dowry laws and domestic violence are being misused and innocent men are being victimized in the draconian provisions of the law coupled with anti-male implementation of the same. Highlighting suicide figures released by the Ministry of Home Affairs and making a case that suicide by married men is almost double than that of married women, SIFF called for institution of National Commission for Men and formation of Men Welfare Ministry.

Below is a video for the same:

PRESS RELEASE: SIFF Demands No Arrests No Maintenance in Marital Disputes

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) is a non-funded non-profit NGO fighting for men’s rights, Gender Equality and Family Harmony by creating awareness against the misuse of anti-male laws like Section 498A (the dowry law), the Domestic Violence Act, and the various Maintenance laws etc. which are systematically breaking down the family system of India and perpetrating state sponsored abuse against men.

It is pertinent to note that in the last 65 years of Indian Independence neither a single rupee has ever been allocated for men’s welfare nor has a single Constitutional/Academic body ever been formed to study the problems faced by men let alone addressing them.

This emptiness has led SIFF to do research on men’s problems, talk to the victimized men,  understand their pain, collect data and statistics related to men’s abuse and create awareness  about them. SIFF has been doing this research since the last 8 years. Also SIFF and its allied NGOs all over India, have been engaging in various awareness campaigns to create awareness of men’s issues through media, internet blogs and road protests.

The Problem:

One of the major problems that men face around marriages is criminalization of marital disputes. Every relationship has its own share of ups and downs, incompatibilities. However, it is being observed that with every year passing it is becoming a fashion for the wife’s family to threaten husband’s family of false dowry cases and false maintenance cases if the demands of the wife and/or her family are not met by husband and/or his family.

Marital disputes are being used an excuse to convert bad marriages into false criminal cases based on false allegations of physical torture and dowry demand by husband towards the wife.

Arrest Nisha Sharma, She Deserves it

Protection of criminal women, merely because they are women is the biggest of injustices that this society heaps on to men. And it seems the Governments and social contractors are just not ready to learn from their mistakes in this area and they continue to protect criminal women even at the cost of justice and society.

One such clear-cut example of such a social tendency is the case of the (in)-famous (sic) Nisha Sharma. Sharma, who shot to fame in 2003 when she called off the wedding on alleged dowry demands by the would be groom’s family, over and above what they had already given to them as per Nisha’s claims, was immediately bestowed with a lots of praises, cheers and national honor and had received thousands of proposals for standing up against dowry.

The Delhi Government also included a chapter on Nisha and BBC covered it.

For around 16 months Nisha was the “Media Darling”. And the media left no stone unturned in tarnishing the accused groom, Munish Dalal’s image to such an extent by repeatedly showing his photograph that he did not get job anywhere for 2 years.