Does it sound like a self-contradictory statement when I say, “No Money in Alimony”? Because, everyone knows that alimony is the money that a husband pays when he gets divorced from his wife, so when we say, “No Money in Alimony”, what exactly does it mean?
It simply means, “Abolish Alimony”. And do we have the eyebrows already raised?
Well, yes, then I guess this article is pretty much needed. I have often experimented by talking to people asking them, “Is it OK to abolish alimony?”
And the answer has been a majority NO, even from many of those men who are themselves paying alimony/maintenance.
And when I asked them as to why would they support alimony, the answer was, “I know my wife doesn’t deserve alimony, but there are many genuine women who should get?”
And this made me ponder and wonder, “Is it OK to burden a husband with the financial burden of his ex-wife even when the relationship is over?”
An article authored by me titled, “The Gender Discriminatory Laws of India” has appeared in the Glimpse Magazine, Chandigarh. Here’s a scanned version of the article below. In case you find it difficult to read, you can download the image, enlarge it and read it.
Is Men’s Rights Movement an Anti-women or anti-feminist Movement?
No. The answer is an emphatic No.
Then, why our tone sounds anti-feminist or even anti-women?
Because, feminists and even women do not like Men’s Rights and they oppose and try to sabotage Men’s Rights. Feminists want Men to change to 21st century, and yet they want men to fulfil their 16th century demands. Feminists are idiots. Society is critical about men and their behaviour. We are sometimes critical about women so that society sees negative sides of women as well.
Why women oppose Men’s Rights?
Just have a look at this pic below. These are the demands of a wife in a maintenance case. This is how women are extorting men and courts are facilitating it as well. Do not tolerate abuse of men. Raise your voice against men being treated as “FREE ATM MACHINES”. Recently, on CNN-IBN, advocate Poornima Advani was shouting at the top of her lungs – “Do not convert marriage into employment” and was trying to uphold the sanctity of marriage while refusing to part with husband’s property. My question to her and her supporters – “If women themselves think of marriage as an easy access to luxurious lifestyle and easy money, why should men be punished for that?”
MRM or the men’s rights movement, as it is popularly known, had actually started in India many years back. With groups like Men Cell, Pidito Pati Parishad (PPP) and a few others being formed in the various parts of the country, however, it took quite some years before the movement got widespread recognition and mainstream status.
One can clearly see the advent of the movement getting prominent focus and attention with the rise of the Save Indian Family (SIF) movement. The SIF movement started in and around the beginning of 2005 with a few men’s rights activists calling the situation as “Enough is Enough”. The abuse of men and their families, by the society, law agencies and the Government going unabated and harassed men, especially husbands, having no solace in sight, the growth and foundation of the SIF movement was long impending and waiting to happen.
However, this current movement with the existing impetus did not start as SIF movement. It just started as a desperate attempt by a handful of husbands, who were trapped in bad marriages and frivolous marital litigations, to make their voices heard over the internet through blogging.
All characters in this article are imaginary but inspired from real life. Any resemblance is purely co-incidental and non-intentional
Making News is a news-publication agency. It has a reporter whose name is Naïve Journalist and an editor whose name is Shrewd Editor. We will refer to the reporter as NJ and the editor as SE.
SE: You are not getting any interesting news these days. Get me the truth of the society. We have to publish facts.
NJ: I have sir; here is a case of a wife who was murdered by her husband as she was caught red-handed with her lover in bed by her husband. It will be a sensational story sir – “Wife caught red-handed committing adultery, killed by husband”.
SE: Hey, hold on your horses. While I understand we need to be as true as possible while printing, but we also need to keep in mind the interest of our readers. Such news can be extremely disturbing for the society.
Indian marital laws are extremely anti-male in nature. Almost all laws stereotypically assume that all men are aggressors and all women are victims and thus these laws have become havoc for Indian men. Indian men are increasingly becoming innocent victims of the “Legal Terrorism” cast by these laws.
Laws like Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, the Domestic Violence, Child Custody provisions, etc. are being used heavily against men to convert failed marriages into a crime and penalize innocent men. This not only endangers the male gender but also the social fabric and the family system of India.
Confidare Community Center is the first ever men’s rights center in India aimed towards creating a community based approach towards creating awareness of abuse of men’s rights by the society and lawmakers.