Domestic Violence claims 170,000 husbands in 12 years

In the last twelve years (1996 – 2008) 170,000 husbands have been claimed by rampant domestic violence against them. In a shocking revelation of suicide statistics for the year 2008 reveals that almost double the number of married men have committed suicide in comparison to married women as the report attached here corroborates. It states that in the year 2008 57,639 married men committed suicide in comparison to 30,224 married women whereas the same figures for the years 2007 57593 and 30,064, 2006 are 55,452 and 29,869 and for 2005 are 52,483 and 28,188.

While there has been a lot of hue and cry for domestic violence against women with various studies being sponsored for studying the same with tax payers’ money 82% of which comes from men, but sadly enough no study has ever been done in India for studying the prevalence, effects and trends of domestic violence against men or the statistics about it.

Sachin Tendulkar – Double Century or Double Standards?

Well today, 24^th Feb 2010, Sachin Tendulkar – the living cricket legend made history. He scored the first double century in One Day International (ODI) cricket. No one has ever created such a record in cricketing history so far.

But one day before that, Sachin did something more remarkable. He made a statement that is going to create more problems for men in the society. He promoted “Legal Terrorism”.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Sachin-bats-for-campaign-against-domestic-violence/articleshow/5605016.cms

The title says, “Sachin bats for campaign against Domestic Violence” but in reality it ignores the male victims of domestic violence and men falsely accused of domestic violence by their wives. I would like to bring forth certain facts here.

iVAWA – A Ticking Social Bomb

The U.S. Govt. is planning to table a bill in its Senate and the Lower House named the iVAWA which stands for “International Violence against Women Act”. Not to be surprised at all, it will be completely anti-male and in the name of Women Empowerment, Male Entrapment would be passed off as a social service. The U.S. Govt. is planning to release $ 1 billion, which works out to Rs. 4500 Crore for creating awareness about iVAWA and Indian feminists would easily get $ 200 million which works out to Rs. 900 crores for implementing iVAWA. Such an amount of money is sufficiently enough to ruin Indian men’s lives.

Apart from being gender biased, the iVAWA is actually “A Ticking Social Bomb” which will be covered shortly, but before that I will share certain bare facts.

Press Release: SIFF asks US to exclude India from iVAWA

Sub: SIFF asks US to exclude India from iVAWA.

Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) is a non-funded non-profit NGO fighting for men’s rights, Gender Equality and Family Harmony by creating awareness against the misuse of gender obsessed laws like Section 498A, the Domestic Violence Act, and the various Maintenance laws etc. which are systematically breaking down the family system of India.

SIFF representatives in the U.S. have met the US Senate and House staffers, around 30 of  them and expressed their displeasure over the implementation of iVAWA – International Violence against Women Act and the proposed funding of $ 1 Billion (Rs. 4500 crores) being approved.

SIFF representatives apprised the U.S. officials about the ground realities of the Indian Domestic Violence scenario, some of the highlights of which are as follows:-

One married man commits suicide in India every 9 mins

Vineeta Pandey. New Delhi Family problems, illness, love affairs, bankruptcy identified as top causes

Is the mounting burden of responsibilities driving men to the end of their tether? Numbers suggest so. In India, one married man commits suicide every nine minutes. Of the total 1,25,017 cases of suicide in 2008, married men alone accounted for 57,639. While the number of women taking the extreme step did not lag far behind, men appeared more vulnerable to mounting social and economic pressures. In the case of women, the trigger was more emotional and personal. The overall male-female ratio of suicide victims for the year 2008 was 64:36, according to the latest data of the National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB). The general scene is much grimmer. Suicides in 2008 registered a decadal growth of 19.4% compared to 1998, the figures say. They also reveal a year-on-year rise of 1.9% compared to the 2007 numbers —1,22,637. The overall increase in cases involving women was 355 in two years while it was 2,187 among men. The increase in suicide among men is six times more than that of women. “Every nine minutes a married man is committing suicide in India. Are we ignoring our men too much or burdening them with too many responsibilities?” said Virag Dhulia of the Save Family Foundation, an organisation fighting for harassed husbands. The data, however, may not be revealing the full picture. The number of girls/women attempting suicide is much higher than that of boys/men. But the suicide rate is higher among the latter, says clinical psychologist and family therapist, Dr Shelja Sen.

Bhavya Foundation Poll Result: Keep India out of iVAWA

Sub: Result of online poll conducted by Bhavya Foundation on implementation of I-VAWA

Bhavya Foundation is a registered NGO works for the welfare of child in general and children caught in a matrimonial dispute of their parents in particular. Foundation specially creates awareness in matters of Fatherless Children. Bhavya Foundation is headquartered at Rai-Bareilly, Uttar Pradesh, India. It was founded on 10^th August 2009. Its launch was aptly covered by the media as shown here.

Responding to media reports about the proposed law, “International Violence against Women Act (I-VAWA)” to be introduced soon in the U.S. senate and the cabinet, Bhavya Foundation, carried out an online poll. The U.S. Govt. is said to release $ 1 Billion for implementing the law in various countries including India. This will give Indian feminists a couple of million dollars to spread more anti-male agenda in order to justify the existence of the law.

Realizing that the implementation of such a law will promote family breaking in India and will lead to more fatherless children, Bhavya Foundation has joined the online protest launched by the Indian Affiliate Chapter of the Association for International Men’s Rights Activism and Welfare (AIMRAW), details of which can be found at, “Exclude India from I-VAWA”.

Women Activist Dona Fernandes admits dowry laws are misused

“Lastly, when a section of people say laws are being misused, they should know that none of these laws are working for women and that women have continued to be at the receiving end.”

So it is very clear that the women activists are pushing these laws only to get money and are not at all interested in fighting for any social cause. All they want, is some fudged statistics to shout at and get more funds.

Choice belies with the society.

Keep India out of I-VAWA

This is a warning to the U.S. Senate to keep India out of I-VAWA. Already, Indian equivalent of VAWA has done a lot of social damage in India which is clearly visible at Save Indian Family Foundation’s Website. Any further damage to Indian men, societies and families due to I-VAWA will make U.S. responsible and accountable for exporting Legal Terrorism to India. Choice lies with U.S.

A massive online protest has been launched against I-VAWA at Protest Against I-VAWA.

Now Husbands are filing dowry cases

Poonam Pandey

New Delhi: Fed up facing dowry harassment and domestic violence cases from their wives, husbands are now filing cases of dowry giving on their wives and in-laws. As per them, since both dowry giving and dowry taking are equal crimes as per law and their wives have admitted on their own accord that they gave dowry to their husbands, suitable legal action should be initiated against the wives as well.

As per Save Family Foundation, it all started in Lucknow with a husband there filing a case of dowry giving against his wife. Thereafter the trend caught up with Delhi where, till date, close to 16 husbands have registered such cases. In some cases, suitable legal action has also been taken. Then in Bengaluru and Chennai, some husbands got these cases registered. Now this trend has reached Odisha. This is first time in Odisha. Mithun Kumar, Tarun Kumar Dass and Arun Dash have registered complaints against their wives and in-laws in Bhubhaneshwar. They have alleged dowry giving which is a criminal offense.

Why is Success so important in life?

This question – “Why is success so important in life?” had been haunting me for quite some time. The more I used to think about it, the more I used to get confused. So then I thought I will ask my friends and other people about it. I did do that and got interesting replies in return – a gist of which will be shared shortly – but before that I will share the story of the Pepsodent toothpaste ad which goes as follows.

A small kid is walking dejected and enters the school bus going back to home. His friend asks him, “What happened?” he replies, “Main fail ho gaya (I failed)”. His friend asks for details, he says, Pepsodent had come to their school for a germ test in mouth and germs were found in his mouth, as such he failed the “Germ Test”. And so the kid is completely dejected and feels lost in the world.

Suddenly, his friend says, “Par fail to tera toothpaste hua (But it’s your toothpaste that’s failed)”. Immediately the dejected kid’s face lights up and he elates with joy, “Arre haan mera toothpaste fail hua (Oh ya it’s my toothpaste that’s failed)”. And the kid’s joy knows no bounds.

A careful analysis of the above ad shows that the feeling of success/failure can have profound influence on our psyches, behavior and emotions. Till the time the kid was associating the failure with himself he was sad, but the moment the feeling of failure shifted to the toothpaste, he was fine with it. For him, success here was the dissociation of the feeling of failure.