04.29.09
Husband harassed by dowry
Translated Version:
Jaipur: It’s been the wives who have been at the receiving end of the dowry harassment for decades together. However, contrary to the popular notion, a young man has filed a petition in the court alleging that his wife and in-laws are harassing him and conspiring against him by giving him dowry. Taking cognizance of the complaint filed by C-Scheme resident ChandraBadan Sharma, a competent city court passed orders on Tuesday for registering a case.
11th Judicial Magistrate, Jaipur city has forwarded the complaint to Ashoknagar Police Station, asking the Police Inspector to register the case, investigate and submit a report in the court. ChandraBadan has made his father-in-law Satyanarayan Purohit, mother-in-law Pushpa Purohit, brothers-in-law Kapil and Vikas Purohit in addition to his wife Ritu as accused in the complaint, all of whom are residents of Dausa. Despite his strong refusal to accept any article from his in-laws in marriage, held in 2006, his in-laws were offering him dowry articles which the complainant ChandraBadan flatly refused, argues his lawyer Ashwini Bohra.
After some days of marriage, the in-laws went to the complainant’s house and kept the dowry articles there. Later his in-laws started pestering him to transfer his father’s property in Ritu’s name and stay separate. His in-laws have hatched a criminal conspiracy to give ‘dowry articles’ to him which is a crime as per Section 3, Dowry Prohibition Act.
On the other hand, wife Ritu has also lodged cases of dowry harassment and domestic violence implicating ChandraBadan and his family members.
Arrest My Wife
News 9 a local channel had done a program on the case that I have filed against my wife and in-laws for having admitted to giving dowry to me in a false dowry harassment case lodged against me.
Here is some crude recording of the same.
Part 1:
Part 2:
The Background of the above videos can be found at, I want Justice.
PS: Read the blog I want Justice bottom to top for better clarity.
04.27.09
Invitation to Press Conference for Condemning Non-Notification of CrPC
Invitation for Press Conference
To,
Sub: Invitation for Press Conference on Wednesday, 29th April 2009 at 11: 00 AM at Press Club, Bangalore
Respected Sir / Madam,
Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), single largest NGO promoting the cause of Gender Equality and Family Harmony, is organizing a Press Conference on the 29th April 2009 at the Press Club of Bangalore at 11 am for voicing our views on the recent decision of the Government to not to notify the recently proposed CrPC Amendment Bill 2008.
We cordially invite your media correspondents / cameramen to this Press Conference and grace the occasion.
We are looking forward to your active participation in making the event a grand success
Date: 27 April 2009 Thanks and Regards,
Place: Bangalore Virag
Public Relations Officer
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore
Speakers:
Virag: 9986378801 (English)
Anil Kumar: 9845143724 (English)
Vishnu: 9880286694 (Kannada)
04.23.09
Press Release condemning non-notification of CrPC Amendments
PRESS RELEASE
Sub: Condemning the decision of non-notification of CrPC Amendment Bill 2008
Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), an NGO dedicated to promote the cause of Gender Equality and Family Harmony, wishes to express its views on the recent decision of the Govt. of India via the Ministry of Home Affairs, to notify the CrPC Amendment Bill 2008 after some modifications in the amended Sec 41-1(A) pertaining to powers of arrest by police.
Brief Background:
After a lot of deliberation and studies done by various committees like the Malimath Committee, the National Police Commission, various landmark judgments by the Honorable Supreme Court, etc. the CrPC Amendment Bill was proposed in 2006 and a public debate was also invited on the same. The same was notified via various media reports.
Some of the key points which led to introduction of ‘Accountability, checks and balances on the powers to arrest by the police’ in the proposed CrPC Amendment Bill 2008 are:-
- As per the third report of the National Police Commission, 60% of the arrests carried out by the police are thoroughly unnecessary and unjustified. If arrest data provided by the National Crime Record Bureau for the year 2007 is anything to go by then in 2007 alone 40 lakh innocent people have been arrested unnecessarily out of the total 68 lakh arrested since 60% of the arrests were unnecessary.
- Such arrests have congested the jails with unwarranted under trials to such an extent that it contributes to 43.2% of jail expenditure – a burden on the public exchequer.
- Unjustified arrest of a person, not only violates his right to liberty as mandated by article 21 of the Indian Constitution, but also leads to serious ignominy and fatal degradation of his social reputation. This has been highlighted in the landmark Supreme Court judgment Joginder Kumar vs. Union of India.
- The same judgment also lays emphasis on the thin line between the power to arrest and the need to arrest.
- The Malimath Committee in its report, titled “Reforms of Criminal Justice System” dated March 2003, had suggested that the non-bailable nature of Section 498A (Cruelty by husband and/or relatives on married woman) of the IPC makes it mandatory for police to arrest the accused and this severely degrades the chances of a re-union, if the case is false and as per Govt. records 98% of such cases are false. Thus the committee had suggested making the Section 498A bailable.
- Several incidences of police atrocities insides lock-ups and misuse of powers of arrest by police in connivance with lawyers had come to light and various State HRCs as well as NHRC had recommended strong curbing of the power to arrest. Various media reports corroborate the fact.
Keeping in mind all these points, the 154th report of the Law Commission of India, drafted the CrPC Amendment Bill, the USP of which was,
Section 41-1(a) of the Criminal Procedure Code (CrPC), wherein, if notified, the police shall not arrest a person, accused for an offense punishable for less than seven years, unless a ‘Notice of Appearance‘ is issued to the accused person and the accused person fails to comply with the notice along with other rights of the accused like hiring a lawyer, a medical check-up, provision of FIR copy, etc. Also, the reasons for arresting the person have to be recorded by the police in the court diary.
However, various lobby lawyers all over India resorted to hooliganism, illegal strikes and violent road shows in various parts of India demanding the repealing of Section 41-1(a) as it was directly affecting their business. If people won’t fear an immediate arbitrary arrest by the police, they won’t be panicky if police calls them and the lawyers will not be in a position to extort money from accused persons in the name of providing relief from arrest, and other bail proceedings etc.
The protests by lawyers were condemned by SIFF and its allied NGOs and the decision of the Govt. of India to notify the CrPC Amendment Bill was welcomed by the NGO groups. Various memorandums were also sent to the Govt. of India and to The Honorable President of India Smt. Pratibha Devisingh Patil to this effect.
However, it is interesting to note that while these official correspondences failed to make any mark on the Govt. of India, it chose to be held hostage by lobbying, protesting and egg-pelting lawyers who are co-incidentally supposed to be the Custodians of Constitution as well.
Present Scenario:
As per various media reports last week, the Ministry of Home Affairs notified that the CrPC Amendment will not be notified till the next Govt. formation and not without further amendments keeping in mind the interest of the ‘potentially degradable business’ of lobby lawyers.
It is a very sad state of affairs that where the life and liberty of 40 lakh innocent citizens is at stake, the Govt. of India chose to ignore their plight and rolled back one of the best decisions taken hitherto giving in to hooliganism by groups with vested interests.
Looks like as if the 2 houses of the Parliament viz. the Lok Sabha and the Rajya Sabha, and the Office of the President of India have been reduced to dummies in front of protests and road shows by certain groups. Decisions taken inside the houses are potentially delicate and politically non-immunized, to be over-ruled by protests and road shows. In such an event the 2 houses and the Office of the President of India, might as well be closed down to drastically reduce the burden on the public exchequer since now lawyers have gained prominence to decide the course of action of laws and related amendments by their road shows, protests, hooliganism, egg-pelting or talibanism in short.
To this effect, even SIFF and its allied NGOs have been protesting against the misuse of dowry laws, Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, treatment of husbands as FREE ATM MACHINES etc. for the past 5 years either on internet or on ground, however the Govt. of India chose to ignore them conveniently and Minister of Women and Child Development, Smt. Renuka Choudhary also went to the extent of making a mockery of their cause and talking rudely to them.
If the Govt. of India can put the life and liberty of 4 Million people at stake in order to appease a handful of lawyers, then why are the demands made by SIFF and its allied NGOs falling on deaf ears when it is affecting an estimated 15 Million people. Some of the demands of SIFF are:-
- Ministry of Men’s Welfare and National Commission for men.
- All laws to be made Gender neutral.
- Check ongoing misuse of gender biased laws till gender neutral laws come in place
SIFF’s views:
- The present situation clearly shows a hijack of the entire Govt. machinery by lobby lawyers for their commercial interest and the inability of the Govt. machinery to prevent the hijack and only showcases the rampant level of deeply embedded corruption. The system is totally broken and a common man has no say in it. The interests of a common man have no place in policy decisions which are taken to appease various lobbying groups to extract political mileage.
- If things are going to go on at this pace then the day is not far when jungle raj will descend upon India which is already on its way to become a functioning anarchy.
- Today, in this press conference, and with the help of our esteemed media friends, SIFF appeals the society to raise its voice against the injustice going on in the name of “Criminal Justice System” to protect the rights of certain lobby groups. Criminal Justice System is not meant to be used as a tool to either settle personal scores or mint money.
- But unfortunately the way it is functioning currently in the area of martial laws and domestic violence, the criminal justice system has lent itself to be used a tool to harass husband’s family to treat him as a FREE ATM MACHINE. This practice is being aided by lobbying lawyers who fear that with the regularization of the powers of arrest, their illegitimate income will be adversely affected and hence they have hijacked the Govt. machinery for their own vested interests.
SIFF feels the way things are going on in the Criminal Justice System; it is nothing less than fascism and needs to be stopped with immediate effect. Once again it is a choice with the society to either ignore the warning or heed to it seriously.
Thanks and Regards
Public Relations Officer
Save Indian Family Foundation
04.21.09
Techie sues wife FOR ‘giving’ dowry
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| The wedding photos of Virag and Viral |
A Bangalore-based software engineer has filed a case against his wife and in-laws for paying him dowry. His contention: Giving dowry is as much an offence as receiving it
Demanding dowry is a crime, so is giving it. In a first of its kind in the state, a city-based software engineer jailed for taking dowry has filed a case against his wife and in-laws for ‘giving’ him dowry.
Virag Dhulia, 28, who had been imprisoned for two days, was later released on bail.
Virag has filed cases against his wife Viral Goda and his in-laws saying they had paid him dowry. Virag separated from his wife within two months of their marriage. Viral and her parents filed a complaint in the Mahadevapura police station saying they had paid Virag Rs 12 lakh as dowry.
Not to take it lying down, he too filed a complaint against them. “My wife says I have received dowry, which is illegal. But it’s equally illegal to give dowry. So I have filed a case against her,” he said.
“I have not taken any dowry, but they have filed a false case against me. I am shocked at the steps taken by my wife. I read law books and filed the case. This is my answer to my wife who has filed false cases against me,” Virag said.
As per the law, giving dowry is as much a crime as demanding it. Hence, it attracts equal punishment under Section 3 of Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961.
Police records clearly say his wife and in-laws had paid him dowry, but he had not demanded it. The case has been admitted in Tenth Additional Chief Metropolitan Magistrate Court, Mayo Hall. In January this year, the court directed the jurisdiction police to investigate the case and file a first information report.
Virag said, “The misuse of Dowry Prohibition Act and Domestic Violence Act should be stopped or it can get many innocent people into trouble.”
“I don’t know what the police are doing. Even after the court ordered an inquiry, the police have not done anything,” he alleged.
WIFE’S CHARGE
Viral filed dowry harassment case against Virag on September 10, 2007. “I was harassed mentally and physically by my husband and his parents. They tortured me for more dowry. They demanded Rs 12 lakh more as dowry and warned that if they don’t get money, I would be sent back,” said her complaint.
Viral has alleged Virag had assaulted her for more money and she was “not allowed to eat ‘good food’ and not allowed to talk to friends”. “I was feeling insecure,” she has said. Virag, however, denied all these allegations. “I have already said all her allegations are baseless. She did all this as I didn’t come out of my family,” he said.
SHORT MARRIAGE
Virag and Viral married on February 12, 2007 in Kolkata. Virat is a software engineer working in i2 Technologies located in Marathahalli in Bangalore. She was staying with him in Bangalore, where Virag had bought her a flat. Virag’s parents too were staying with him as he was their only son.
“I bought her a flat and I loved her very much. Problems started after a month. She didn’t want to stay with my parents,” said Virag.
“She asked me to separate from my parents and started demanding more money. She went to her parents’ house, but did not come back. Virag called her several times, visited her and even wrote to her. But she didn’t return,” said Virag.
Later, she came with her parents and uncles and filed dowry harassment cases against him. “She also asked for a divorce and filed for maintenance which I am paying,” he said.
Case history
Husband’s name: Virag R Dhulia
Wife’s name: Viral V Dhulia
Police station: Mahadevapura PS
Court: X ACMM, Mayo Hall Court
Case status: FIR registered by police. No action taken
Sections filed: Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961 for ‘voluntary confessional admission’ of having given dowry, Section 120(B) IPC – criminal conspiracy, Section 34 IPC – common intention
04.20.09
Cong too pro-women?
Bangalore: At least, that’s what men’s rights activists think. In fact, they are even asking people not to vote for the party’s candidates
A group of men’s rights activists staged a dharna near Mahatma Gandhi statue yesterday asking people not to vote for the Congress.
The reason for their protest is that they feel that the party is “too pro women.” They believe men are being exploited by the Congress. Through the Domestic Violence Act, the Congress party has incited a woman versus woman war, and the price is paid by Indian men,” said Virag Dhulia of Save Indian Family Foundation.
They allege that the Congress never herd their plea. “Inspite of the Supreme Court terming the Misuse of Section 498A as ‘Unleashing of a new Legal Terrorism on innocent husband’s family’ and Domestic Violence Act as ‘one of the most clumsy drafted law’, the Congress led UPA government has not taken any corrective action and the entire family of husbands is suffering today because of that,” said Kumar Jahgirdar of Child Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting.
The Bangalore based foundation has started their campaign against the Congress throughout the country.
“Our Delhi and Pune members have already distributed pamphlets and are asking people not to vote for the party. We at Bangalore have designed our pamphlet and will distribute them soon. Besides, we have also been sending emails and have put up the appeal on our various websites and blogs,” said Virag.
The group claims that they are confident that their votes are huge enough to defeat the Congress. “Men harassed by misuse of women’s law amount to two per cent of the total votes in the country. If these people do not vote for the Congress, there will be a spin at the government formation,” he said.
The group has no problem if the people vote for any party other than the Congress. “Vote for any party, but not for congress and give a clear message that anti-husband, anti-men, anti-family and anti-child law and policy will not be accepted in this country by political party.
Don’t vote!
>>All-India Milli Council has also asked its members to vote for secular parties.
>>The Catholic Church has asked its members not to vote for parties that don’t uphold secularism.
>>Kerala Catholic Bishops Council (KCBC), has asked its members not to vote for those who preach atheism.
>>Hindu organisations have been asking people not to vote for those who don’t support the Hindutva cause.
04.19.09
A Voice for men
Politicians beware! Battered men, who no longer wish to be bullied by women misusing laws such as the Domestic Violence Act (DV Act) and the 498A for personal gains, are back with a vengeance and it looks like they mean business this time around. “We have decided to get together and take active part in the election campaigning process this year,” says Suresh of the Save Indian Family Foundation, a non-governmental organisation working to save Indian families from being broken.
“We decided to campaign because we realised that political parties are trying to create a gender divide by creating a women’s vote bank. They have been turning a blind eye to issues concerning men,” he says with conviction and cites the recent case of a techie called Syed Makhdoom, who committed suicide in Bangalore after being separated from his son by his wife.
“Syed’s case is not a one off incident. In the last few years, suicides by men have gone up as have false cases against them,” he claims. “We are demanding a separate ministry for the welfare for men. Also, we want the DV act to be made gender neutral. At the moment, the DV act prescribes punishment only for men. It goes without saying that any party willing to back us will receive our support. We will campaign for such parties. We have been sending mails to political parties in this regard,” Suresh says.
Talking about his organisation’s campaign in certain other parts of the nation, Suresh claims, “On the net, we have already put out 300 blogs and more are to follow. At the field level, we intend to distribute flyers and conduct rallies.” He adds, “In Delhi, our campaign is going strong. In Nagpur, we conducted two rallies. Chennai is in the last phase of elections. So, we are just beginning our campaign here.”
Kumar Jahgirdar of CRISP, an organisation working to the protect the rights of children and that is working along with SIFF in this regard, points out that their campaign, though small, might be able to make a difference, nevertheless.
“We might not be able to create a big impact but even a small change can prove crucial,” he says.
Ask Jahgirdar for approximately the number of people they hope to reach out to and he says it is difficult to say. “On the net, a blog is read by so many people. And it is difficult to gauge the kind of impact theyhave. But we do intend to create an awareness,” he says hopefully.A
04.18.09
Families in false dowry cases and marital problems call to “Divorce Congress”
PRESS RELEASE
Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), Bangalore, the single largest NGO working towards the cause of Family Harmony, Gender Equality and Men’s Rights announces a flash dharna at the Gandhi Statue, M.G. Road, Bangalore tomorrow on 19th Apr. 09 to bring public awareness of the serious problems faced by the Indian husbands and their families owing to many anti-family legislations that have been introduced in the last three decades.
In the last four years alone, over 1,23,497 women have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without any evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man. Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment. Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law and sisters-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.
Inspite of The Honorable Supreme Court terming the Misuse of Section 498A as “Unleashing of a new Legal Terrorism on innocent husband’s family” and Domestic Violence Act as “one of the most clumsily drafted law”, the Congress led UPA government has not taken any corrective action and the entire families of Indian husbands are suffering today because of that. This is an extreme case of “bad governance” by Congress party.
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Congress wants to divide the country based on gender and it wants to show itself as a savior of women for Vote Bank politics. In reality, Congress is most insensitive and brutal towards women of this country. Congress arrested over 1,23,497 women in last 4 years without investigation or evidence in last 4 years. Even pregnant women were not spared.
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This shows how selfish and insensitive Congress is towards women and children, even though the Chief of Congress is a woman.
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Divorce has sky-rocketed during Congress rule, as this party provided special incentive for women to file divorce and marry multiple times.
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Congress has used hate speech. A Congress Cabinet Minister Renuka Choudhury says,” it’s time for Men to suffer”. That is hate speech and this minister was given ticket to contest elections.
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Congress did not implement judicial reforms which were recommended in 2003. As a result, the divorce cases are increasing rapidly while there are no courts to handle these cases. That is extremely poor governance as young people’s lives are hung standstill in the middle.
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Congress passed many bills in parliament without debate or discussion. This includes the Domestic Violence against women bill. Congress denied the protection to old women if they are harassed or thrown out of house by their daughters-in-law by making last minute changes in the law.
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This shows Congress does not believe in democracy, otherwise why it will pass bills without discussions on finer-print?
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Home Minister Shivaraj Patil and Women and Child Minister Renuka Choudhury were the most incompetent of all ministers. Renuka Choudhury did not make any provisions in law for prevention of abuse of children. She did nothing for Children. The only thing she’s interested in is media attention using her loud mouth.
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Small Children are worst sufferers when there is a divorce or separation as they are cut off suddenly from one parent, in case of marital problems.
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Thousands of children got separated from their fathers or mothers for prolonged periods starting from few months to many years due to Congress neglecting family courts, while it promoted rampant divorce everywhere in India. The damage Congress caused to the future generations is enormous.
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Family Harmony is an election issue even in the United States. People there do not tolerate any party that promotes divorce and is insensitive to children. Barack Obama himself spent lot of time in his campaign talking about problem of children living with only one parent. But Indian Congress Party entirely neglects this issue. No Congress party leader has ever talked about family harmony as immediate need for Indian society. It is not even in their manifesto.
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We are in no mood to forgive Congress for its insensitivity and bad governance, especially in the area of family harmony and family courts.
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Congress has been a slave of foreign forces, which are pumping money into India to destroy our family system with lies and false statistics.
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We also urge other political parties not to support Congress and abet “Family Breaking”.
So, we call for people to just “Divorce Congress”, after all Congress promotes divorce.
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People must vote.
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People must vote any party or even independents, but not Congress.
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The message is for all political parties. Any party that neglects the family system promotes divorce will get “DIVORCED by Indian People”.
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We do not mind to have a hung parliament and anther election. But, Congress has to go.
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We warn all political parties if they neglect Indian family system, which is the envy of the world.
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We’ve started a nationwide campaign to “Divorce Congress” and many of our members have stood in elections as independents.
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Our activist Sudhir Anand has filed his nomination as an independent candidate in New Delhi Lok Sabha Constituency.
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We have couple of thousand volunteers in New Delhi to campaign for him.
A Sorry state of the Justice System and Gender Equality in India; a feat achieved by the Congress Government in the last 60 years.
Every year, close to 4,000 innocent senior citizens are arrested (i.e. one innocent elderly person every 2.5 hours) under IPC Section 498A. Many retired elders have been ill-treated, thrown out of their own homes and deprived of their meager means of sustenance by greedy or vengeful daughters-in-law. Senior citizens are further harassed through false cases of domestic abuse and dowry harassment and denied mental peace during the last leg of their lives. More and more elderly parents are unable to depend on their sons for the fear of false dowry harassment cases by resentful daughters-in-law. The World Health Organization, in its report on India cited IPC Section 498A as one of the major reasons for the “Increasing Abuse of the Elderly in India”.
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According to National Crime Records Bureau(NCRB) data of 2005: 52000 Married Men committed Suicides while 28000 Married Women committed Suicides.
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2006 Crime Bureau Data: Married Men Suicide: 55452 vs. Married Women Suicide: 29869.
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2007 Crime Bureau Data: Married Men Suicide: 57593 vs. Married Women Suicide: 30064.
Still there is no LAW to Protect Men, why?
We have repeatedly requested the Congress led UPA Government by providing all the data and official statistics of suffering of Indian men in general and husbands in particular and demanded that all Gender Biased LAW should immediately be made crime based void of any assumption that women never lie and men are born as Criminals. “MEN/WOMEN” word to be replaced by word “PERSON” and word wife/husband to be replaced with the word “SPOUSE”.
But it has fallen on deaf ears of the Congress led UPA Government and in return the Union minister for Women and Child Development makes the following derogatory statements against Indian men while being in office:
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It’s the turn of the Indian men to suffer, as women suffered for long. (Its like Mughals had destroyed many temples, so let’s demolish all the Mosques in India).
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Don’t trust Your Men; trust Condom in the name of reducing AIDS. (Forgetting the fact that relationships are based on trust alone. And she seems to be spreading the message to all the women to have sex without having any relationship with the men).
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It’s Diwali Gift to Indian women (on the DV Act). (Within two weeks, four women were sent behind the bars under first DV act case in Pune and one age old women left her own house as her daughter-in-law walked into her house with all her friends and parents. Who was the gift for?).
Promoting family harmony and true gender equality is the need of the day, to ensure social stability and responsible citizenship in the country. We strongly condemn all the above-mentioned assaults on the human rights and constitutional rights of men, women, children, senior citizens and families.
Citizens may choose to vote for Congress and ensure that more and more suffering follows for Indian men and their families. Congress government has converted the Indian Criminal Justice system into a wholesale free money earning business through Legal Extortion from Husbands and their family members.
Vote for any party, but not for congress and give a clear message that anti-husband, anti-men, anti-family and anti-child law and policy will not be accepted in this country by any political party.
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore
Contacts: Anil: 9845143724 (English), Girish: 9902029992 (Kannada)
04.16.09
Press Release for Candle Light March for Syed Makhdoom
Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) and Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting (CRISP), NGOs working towards the cause of Family Harmony, Gender Equality and Child Rights announces a “Candle Light March” in condolescence of the unfortunate demise of Mr. Syed Makhdoom, who committed suicide on 5th April 2009 after he was no longer able to bear the domestic violence being done on him by his wife and in-laws as they trapped him in false dowry harassment cases and separated him from his child. His suicide came to light on the 9th April 2009 after his landlord grew suspicious.
In a bone-chilling, 8 minute video that he recorded of himself on his mobile, minutes before he committed suicide, Syed Makhdoom expressed the pain that he underwent in an insensitive society and before an insensitive judiciary that trivialized his pain, never understood a father’s feelings and did not grant him visitation to his child which is the natural and biological right of both the child and the father.
Syed Makhdoom’s case is not a one off case. Every year 57,000 married men are committing suicides, unable to bear the torture meted out on them by their wives and in-laws. In the year 2007, 57593 married men committed suicide. Similar figures for the years 2006 and 2005 are 55452 and 52000 respectively as per National Crime Records Bureau. Since 1996 suicide rates have shot up by 40%. Every year the suicide rate is going up by 4% whereas population grows at the rate of 1%. 4 times more men are committing suicides than they are born. Compared to women, the suicide of married men is 1.86 times and grows at 6 times the rate of growth of married women’s suicides.
SIFF and its allied NGOs have been creating awareness about this hidden problem since the past 4 years and has been demanding a Men’s Welfare Ministry but the demands have fallen on deaf ears of the Congress led UPA Government. Hence this election, SIFF appeals to the people, “Vote for any party, but not for Congress”.
Today, April 16, 2009 SIFF and CRISP members are gathering at Gandhi Statue at 7: 00 PM in a “Candle Light March” to pay tribute to the departed soul of Mr. Syed Makhdoom. Additionally we wish to convey this message to the society that “Killing men is not a social service” and men are committing suicides in larger numbers with increasing rate every year, merely for the reason that they are not given proper communication channels to express their problems and an environment where in their problems can get addressed. Hence it is a choice left to the society; it can continue to ignore men and their problems and create a fatherless society or take note of the issue and take responsibility for it as well.
Today in this Candle March, in addition to paying homage to the departed soul of Mr. Syed Makhdoom, SIFF, CRISP and its allied NGOs makes the following demands from the Government of India:
- Form a National Commission for Men and a Men’s Welfare Ministry to look into the issues that men are facing.
- Owing to skyrocketing suicides due to family distress and domestic disputes, a national debate needs to be called for. The debate needs to address the issues the current family system faces.
- Grant interim visitation/custody orders to non-custodian parents within the first month.
- Clear the huge backlog of pending matrimonial cases and appoint evening courts and more judges for the same.
- Eliminate all gender biased laws and replace them with Gender neutral laws by replacing the words “Husband” and “Wife” with “Spouse” and “Man” and “Woman” with “Person”.
- Eliminate all redundant legal provisions of applying for maintenance by the wife.
- Amend the Domestic Violence Act which currently does not cater to female to female violence, female to male violence and male to male violence.

